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Help!!
By Mcdrizzy
10/1/2010 3:10:30 PM
I am 16 and I am a guy. I bless the sacrament and every thinks I am the perfect Mormon.

Here is the problem. I have been masterbating and looking at porn since I was 13. I try to stop and I do for like a week but then the temptations come back and I fall again. I don't know what to do. I don't want to do this any more and I'm tired of hiding behind a mask at church. So please help me and tell me what to do.

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Keep this simple    
"There are volumes to write to you Mcdrizzy. This one will be hard, but if you do it now, you will never regret it. You will go through a bit of pain, but the joy you will feel in the long run will far overshadow that pain.

Tell your parents.

Tell your bishop.

Pick one to do first, then do the other one.

Easy? no....

Worth it? YES!"
posted at 15:19:04 on October 1, 2010 by lawrence
Lawrence is Right    
"And I might also add that repentance now, no matter how difficult or embarrassing, it will be infinitely more difficult and more embarrassing later in life.

Read more of the stories from people on this site. The majority of those suffering from this addiction started at about your age, including me. If I had known at your age what I know now, I would make every effort and take every step to stop this addiction as quickly as possible. Very little you could do could possibly bring your more pain than waiting to repent of this one later on.

You are a good person. You are a Son of God. As such you are loved and have limitless potential. Repent now, whatever it takes, and don't look back. The Lord WILL be with you! And we are here to help you!"
posted at 16:00:19 on October 1, 2010 by paul
McDrizzy, You can heal!!    
"Lawrence is absolutely right. Being a Mom and Grandmother I am so proud that you are seeking help. This is a problem you will need help and support with. Please arm yourself with understanding of what you are dealing with. Get the book, "He Restoreth My Soul", by Donald L. Hilton Jr., MD. Deseret Book has this book, and it may be available on other sites as well. He is an LDS Doctor, a brain surgeon who has researched and had personal experiences with pornography and the influences it has on our bodies. This will help you understand your body's chemical reaction to your behavior and understand why you are having such a hard time quiting. This book will help you understand there is hope for healing. Also, I would recommend that you go to, www.windhavenpublishing.com,click on literature, then free downloads, down load the Dear Bishop letter and print it and take that with you to your Bishop. It will help him to be able to help you. Also while you are there, at the windhaven site, get what free information you can from "Clean Hands, Pure Heart. This is a great book for those who are seeking help from overcoming the influences of pornography.
Hopefully there is a 12 step recovery group in your area for youth. Your Bishop will guide you there. He will help you put into action the Atonement that beautiful gift from our Father in Heaven and your Savior Jesus Christ. I hope and pray you will follow the advice you have received here and get the help you need. We are praying for you and we need you."
posted at 16:30:09 on October 1, 2010 by BYOUROWNHERO
Welcome!    
"Hey McDrizzy, you've come to the right place. We've been where you are. We understand you. We love you, and we will add our prayers to yours. (I wish I knew when I was 16 that others were praying for me.)

I bet you are a smart kid. I bet you are a good kid. I bet you are planning on a mission. Good for you! Keep working towards your good goals. Keep working hard in school, in sports, in your church callings, and in your mission and college prep. You are not your bad habits. There is so much good that makes up who you are. I don't know you, but I can tell from the fact that you are at this site that you are good. Good people make mistakes--they sin. So do bad people. The difference is that good people repent and are willing (wanting) to follow Jesus. I think that's you. You're a good person, despite the bad things you have done.

I recommend you follow Lawrence's advice to tell your parents and the bishop. Then report back to us and let us know how it went. Then, any time you are tempted to look at pornography, come back to this site and tell us you are being tempted. Any time you struggle and actually look at pornography or masturbate, come back to this site and tell us you are struggling. Don't be embarrassed; we understand. We want you to stop, and we will give advice and give prayers, but we won't judge you.

Finally, McDrizzy, how badly do you want to quit this? How badly do you want to be clean? How badly do you want to be truly worthy of the Melchizedek Priesthood, a mission, and of a temple marriage?

If you want it bad enough, I suggest you start living right now like you are on a mission, like you are a fulltime servant of God--not in every way, but in the following five ways:
1) Study your scriptures for at least 30 minutes every day and say meaningful prayers, even if it means getting up early to do it.
2) Write in a journal.
3) Do your home teaching (think of these as missionary discussions) and attend all your church meetings.
4) Visit the temple (for baptisms) with friends and with your youth group as often as you can (monthly would be great).
5) Finally--and I think this is very important--if you like to listen to music that talks about sex or is profane in the slightest bit, change the music you are listening to now! Give it up.

Other people on this site might disagree with me, McDrizzy, but my opinion is that you will never be able to overcome these temptations you are having alone. You need help and strength from a few other people and from the Lord. My opinion is that if you set a goal to "stop looking at pornography," that goal will be very difficult, if not impossible. But if instead you set a goal to "get ready for a mission by pretending to be on one in five simple ways," and you don't focus too much on your terrible habits, the Lord will see your efforts to serve him, and he will start to change your thoughts. Before you know it, if you keep putting the Lord first, he will change your carnal mind into a spiritual one, and you will be free in large part from these temptations because of Him.

Those are my suggestions, McDrizzy. You can take them or leave them. I'm so glad to see you here, and I hope you'll keep coming, no matter what you decide. I wish I'd had a site like this, and I wish I'd had suggestions like the ones I just gave when I was 16. It took me at least ten more years to realize what a powerfully bad effect the music I was listening to was having on my mind. It was hard to give my music up, but filling my mind with scriptures, the temple, and good music has done amazing things for my thoughts.

Finally, I wish that when I was 16 I could have met a person who had struggled with my same problems and actually overcome. There were times I believed it was impossible. Know this, McDrizzy, there are people on this site who spent decades doing the bad things you are doing and worse. They all regret it. And there are people on this site who have done those things and have stopped doing them years ago. They are clean. They are worthy of the Priesthood, of the temple, of a mission, and of an eternal marriage.

There you have it. The Lord can heal you if you give yourself to him, even as a 16 year old. Go for it. And whether you do what I suggest or not, whether you struggle again or not, just keep coming back and help the rest of us to stay strong, too. We need you just like you need us."
posted at 18:48:39 on October 1, 2010 by BeClean
Helping you by Britta    
"Just remember that Satan wants you in his hands, you have something he doesnt, a body. And in Heavenly Father's eyes those bodies are a gift and we should treat them special. But Satan doesnt want that..so he is gonna try SUPER hard to get under your skin but I have faith that if you keep resisting it and you block out everything that is bad on the internet and in movies that you will be able to overcome it. I also work in the heath care setting and one of the ways they teach us to deal with men how become excited while we women take care of them is to bring up something that doesnt excite them....so maybe talk about families or stuff like that and it helps them to focus on something else....so maybe when you have the temptation you can think of things like that....maybe take a walk so you arent alone, maybe go to the mall so you distract yourself from the temptation....thats what I am trying to do when I feel my addictive temptations coming...i turn the computer off, i talk to a friend, i put in a good movie, i open my door because then i dont feel as needful to do those addictive behaviors (like look at porn and masturbate and my biggest one SHOPPING). I know you can do this...the Lord will always help..."He never gives you something you cant handle". I have faith in you. If you need anymore help, you know where to find it... :)"
posted at 11:16:52 on October 14, 2010 by Anonymous
McDrizzy, You can heal!!    
"We want to hear from you??? How are you????"
posted at 18:16:37 on October 20, 2010 by BYOUROWNHERO
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posted at 20:49:47 on October 20, 2010 by Gondor44646
Where are you?    
"How is everything going?"
posted at 15:41:46 on October 21, 2010 by britta


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