Step 4 - Needing some help to teach this Step
By momlittle3
8/14/2010 9:20:01 PM
Step 4 - Key Principle — Make a searching and fearless written moral inventory of yourself.

Step 4 - Action Step — Make an accounting of your life, past and present

I am looking for your guidance and expertise in how to teach about this Step in our Addiction Recovery Meeting this coming week. It seems like a "scarey" step to take and I wanted some insight maybe how to be able to break it down and how to find the courage to do it. Any information is appreciated!


"Step Four should only be done AFTER the first 3 steps are done properly. What counts is to be fearless and leave no stone unturned. In my opinion, a proper Step Four would include a resentment inventory, a sex inventory, fears, past sins that haven't been confessed and dealt with, character defects list, etc. The only way to do this step properly is under the guidance of a support person (sponsor) who has substantial clean time and who has worked all 12 Steps. There are dozens of formats available on the web and all of them are good. The book, "He Did Deliver Me From Bondage" has a pretty good take on this step. Good luck"
posted at 01:47:29 on August 15, 2010 by Anonymous
This step takes time.    
"Anonymous gave some good advice. Before I started this step my facilitator had me (the whole group) write at least 25 things good about ourselves. This was a very good way to start as several of us have or have had damaged ego's, self loathing, shame and denial.

As to step four, when I facilitate a meeting, I break this step down and take at least two weeks or two consecutive meetings. This can be painful.

One way is to do a time line. ie. age 8- exposed to pornograpy, age 10 etc. etc.

Another was is to follow the outline in the manual. No need for explicit details. One of the pitfalls of the other non-lds 12 step groups is that during the inventory or in the sharing time it can into a real garbage dump or a time to do "on upmanship: ie "Oh yeah- well just listen to my story" ...

Be prayerful and go slow. Like they say in AA "Easy Does It""
posted at 19:30:55 on August 15, 2010 by migail3
Let us know how it went.    
"I am interested in how this will go for you.

Thanks in advance"
posted at 19:31:36 on August 15, 2010 by migail3
This is just my opinion    
"...but i don't believe the Fourth Step can be done properly in a group setting. I am a little worried that there are other ARP meetings out there that are promoting working this Step this way. Maybe I'm wrong but the whole dynamic of this Step is an extremely personal thing and Step Five involves only one or two trusted people. But, hey if there are people working the Step this way and achieving long term "sobriety", more power to them."
posted at 00:35:53 on August 16, 2010 by Anonymous
One more thing...    
"I worked this Step for the first time 8 years ago and have been clean since. I wouldn't have known how or where to begin without a sponsor first explaining the details. The literature is somewhat vague and the experience of a sponsor or support person is invaluable. The way I worked the Fourth Step is the way every 12 Step program has suggested working it. I kind of hope the church isn't trying to change the format of working this Step. AA's experience tells us that working the Steps in a group is appropriate the second or third or fourth time, but the first fearless written moral inventory needs to be done in a more personal setting. Who among us is 100 percent honest in a group?"
posted at 00:42:22 on August 16, 2010 by Anonymous
Evolving from Self Defenseive Mechanismims    
"I had to work the 4th step at least 3 times before I started applying step one in my personal deliberations and introspection. Man, was I dishonest with my first inventory. As the Lord's Spirit whispered to me doing the action steps I began to accept personal responsibility for the way I was.

I am continuing to do what is called a Personal Inventory, especially when I go in for my Temple Recommend Interview. Another time is during the Sacrament prayer. Who can praise the Lord too much for his wisdom and grace. The Gift of the Holy Ghost is so priceless!!"
posted at 20:36:06 on August 16, 2010 by migail3

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