Making a change.
By brady1
7/15/2010 4:27:19 PM
I have been struggling with a pornography addiction off and on for years--ever since I was twelve or thirteen (now I am thirty). There have been times when I was better (sometimes several years in a row) and times when I have not done so well. I am not doing well now and have been looking for help. I hope that this site will help me overcome my pornography addiction! I have to do it for my own sole and just as important for my wife and children! I love them! I hate my addiction! I want to be the best support possible when my sons grow older and are confronted with inappropriate images--I will be so much better if I do not have a problem either! I do not know how this system works but I think that if I write about how I am doing and about when I struggle, perhaps it will help me keep track of what works and what doesn't. I will also find other ideas that will help me leave my pornography addiction habit! I am not much of a blogger so we will see how this goes!


"Hey Brady. It's good to have you here. Please do exactly what you said--write about how you are doing and about when you struggle. We are here to help and lift each other.

Two questions: how much does your wife know about your problems? Are you attending 12-step group meetings?"
posted at 17:37:31 on July 15, 2010 by BeClean
You can do it Brady!    
"Hi Brady
Hoping to hear from you again on the site. The fact that you made the above post is a huge step. You are recognizing that you have a problem and seeking help. I also struggle with addiction to pornography. Years of ups and downs. I also have sons and they are a huge motivation. I have come to realize that if they face struggles with addiction I need to have had a successful recovery to help them. I don't think recovery is something you can fake--I feel they will know who I trully am if I seek to help them.

I wanted to strongly recomend attending 12 step meetings. I have bene attending since January and they have been a tremondous resource. I understand the disease so much better now. I also recognize that I can't do it alone. For me there has been great danger in trying to do it alone--eventually I surcomb. By attending group meetings I am reminded of recovery on a weekly basis and have found others to rely on.

I also believe that addiction is addiction--it can come in many forms. If you are not ready to attend a meeting get the 12 step book published by the Church. Read it. Begin to apply. When you are ready go to group. Get the "big book" about AA--read it. I am amazed how much I learned about the atonement by reading the big book. It has been a tremondous resource for me.

When you are ready go to the 12 step group. After years about wondering if I should go I finally attempted to attend. I stood outside the door for >10 minutes-paralyzed. Finally I went in and listened. They asked me to speek. I cried for several minutes but could not say anything. But I had taken the first step--acknowleded that I had an addiction and that I was powerless to overcome alone.

Hope this helps. Recovery is possible. When you are ready let us know how you are doing."
posted at 18:44:41 on July 22, 2010 by Anonymous

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"By emulating the Master, who endured temptations but “gave no heed unto them,” we, too, can live in a world filled with temptations “such as [are] common to man”. Of course Jesus noticed the tremendous temptations that came to him, but He did not process and reprocess them. Instead, He rejected them promptly. If we entertain temptations, soon they begin entertaining us! Turning these unwanted lodgers away at the doorstep of the mind is one way of giving “no heed.” Besides, these would-be lodgers are actually barbarians who, if admitted, can be evicted only with great trauma."

— Neal A. Maxwell

General Conference May 1987