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Help- tips anyone??
By helpme
3/24/2010 12:29:40 AM
I am trying so hard- as well as everyone else here. I need some tips and some motivation. I have been doing really well for the past couple of weeks but I am getting more and more tempted- still havent given in but feel like I am goind to anytime. Does anyone have tips that I do? The temptation is usually at night which makes it hard to do stuff and I have one other person I live with and they also go to bed really early. I would love some tips. I hate this! I want to overcome it more then anything. I am being a lot more regular in scripture reading and praying but I would love more tips. I really do need all the help I can get....I dont want to give in.

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Pray    
"What I've done that is helping me is praying that the temptation would go away. I'm still getting tempted every day, some days worse than others. When I'm having a difficult day is when I seem to be tempted the most, I don't want to give in but the temptation is still there in my mind. For me, my motivation is that I know I can't use the power of the Priesthood to help others if I give in to these temptations. I think of others that I won't be able to help if I gave in just that one time. I also want to serve a mission so that has also been a motivation to stay clean. Search within yourself and you'll find things that will motivate you to stay clean. You can pray to find those motivations. I think you're doing great! Reading the scriptures and praying helps a lot. The Lord will help you if you ask Him for help and have faith that He will and you will receive the help you need to stay clean. Another thing, I also try and look back on my day and see if something I have done even if it was small that might have caused the temptations to get stronger and I repent for those things that I've done even if it was small. It's been difficult for me to do that everyday because Satan wants us not to remember to repent for what we've done.
You can also listen to hymns that remind you of the Savior. My favorites are "I stand all amazed" and "I know that my redeemer lives"."
posted at 01:59:25 on March 24, 2010 by j89
prayer works    
"Here are a couple of my experiences:
- prayer works. And, it's good to pray for help even when I'm just a little bit tempted, rather than waiting for the big temptations to come along. Eventually, prayer becomes a habit, and that's a good habit to have.
- exercise. I was recently reading on Candeo about the endorphin effect that porn and masturbation have. The word endorphin implies that it is a naturally occurring painkiller/pleasure drug. The body creates it and porn can help trigger it. This becomes a very real addiction because it is an addiction to the chemical reaction which occurs in the body. Seriously. It has helped me to find other ways to get that same endorphin high. Running and yoga are two of my favorite pasttimes. That natural runner's high can provide the same endorphins that porn does, only in a much more constructive and healthier way.

Just my experiences. Congratulations on what you've accomplished so far. Prayers and best wishes to continued success."
posted at 04:54:28 on March 24, 2010 by hk-47
What will you lose?    
"Think carefully,

When we can accurately see the costs (past, present and future) outweighing the pleasure, we gain perspective."
posted at 13:08:18 on March 24, 2010 by Anonymous
Go to meetings and get a sponsor,    
"I honestly have no idea how people can work the twelve steps and find recovery without doing those two things."
posted at 16:42:12 on March 24, 2010 by ETTE
Keep plugging at it.    
"I say ditto to what has already been said, particularly HK-47 and Ette.

Pray early and pray often. Go to bed when you feel tempted. I know there are reasons that you want to stay up, but are any of them worth a relapse? HALT is a recovery acronymn that stands for Hungry Angry Lonely Tired. We have to watch ourselves and avoid situations that set us up for relapse. It is funny that the only slip I’ve had since giving up sweets on Dec. 7th of last year was eating a fresh cookie one night when I was really tired. All I had to do was go to bed and it would have taken care of itself. It wasn’t too big of a deal, because I am really healthy and fit now but I had told myself I wasn’t going to have them any more because sugar is a real addiction for me. It showed me that the same things work on us regardless of the addiction. The patterns remain the same. I would also add everything that I just shared with J89 in his post “2 Weeks Again”. And as has been said above take your mind off the temptation. Focus on what you want to hit rather than what you want to avoid. It works in sports, shooting and driving a car, it works with recovery as well.

You can make it.

Love,
John"
posted at 18:34:48 on March 25, 2010 by justjohn
keep it simple    
"'Things tend to work out the best for people who make the best of the way things work out.' Attitudes which aid us in acceptance, in our decisions to turn toward hope and apply faith to our life problems do open up are minds and hearts. and aid us in deciding what's really important in our daily lives as a brothers and sisters. friends and family members."
posted at 23:23:03 on March 16, 2011 by Anonymous
My 2 Cents    
"First off, I totally know how you feel. It's a hard spot to be in, one I've had mixed success with. I agree with what has been said above, although as a sex addict going to bed is a tricky one. It can be tricky to balance needing sleep and the risk of not being able to get to sleep. At least for me. Other things you can try are journaling, make a pros and cons list of acting out, write a letter to yourself about staying sober that you can read when you're struggling. Most of all, don't give up and believe the lie that you can't make it through without acting out because you can do it. Now I need to take my own advice and that of others."
posted at 11:49:29 on March 17, 2011 by dstanley
Here is a tip    
"Since prayer works, ask others to pray for you. Just knowing that they are concerned will help you in the moment of temptation. Starting today, I for one will pray for you each day and check in with you in a week. I don't know your name, but God knows who "helpme" is."
posted at 13:15:02 on March 17, 2011 by lawrence
things that have helped me    
"read porn addiction recovery books as well on top of strudying scriptures, going to group, etc as this has helped me so much to gain a proper perspective on it on what is happenning to me that causes me to fall after some sobriety and talk to others in the group they can have awesome advice too"
posted at 22:29:02 on March 20, 2011 by Joshua
How's it Going?    
"Just wondering how you're doing and if the tips are helping."
posted at 17:25:05 on March 23, 2011 by dstanley
Thank you    
"Everyone thanks so much for your tips I am so grateful for them.
Dstanley- you have answered my prayers countless times and I really want to thank you for that. I know that you struggle yourself, but your are always so positive and giving to everyone on this site. You are truly a blessing in my life. I know that god has used you as in angel in my life. Thank you so much for always being so good and answering and encouraging people. I LOVE it. I am so thankful for you and i pray for you. I hope that you are doing great and are getting the encouragement you need. Thanks for always coming back.
EVERYONE: thank you, thank you, thank you for the tips. They have been great :) the tip that I have found overall that helps me is go out and serve. Sitting here thinking about how I might give In is pointless. When I reach out to others it helps me so much. My addiction is selfish and by serving others has helped me more than anything!!
It also helps when you have priesthood blessings I am so grateful for them and that my dad is close and worthy to give me one :) I am so hard hard on myself, I think we all are. Through a fathers blessing I am able to realign my life with gods and get close to him again. I can also do this through prayer. I am so grateful for prayer and I know he is there listening to ALL of us.
I am SO grateful for ALL of you. Thanks so much for all your help. I am praying for you all! Hope that everything is well with all of you. :)"
posted at 23:25:15 on March 23, 2011 by Helpme
Thank you    
"Everyone thanks so much for your tips I am so grateful for them.
Dstanley- you have answered my prayers countless times and I really want to thank you for that. I know that you struggle yourself, but your are always so positive and giving to everyone on this site. You are truly a blessing in my life. I know that god has used you as in angel in my life. Thank you so much for always being so good and answering and encouraging people. I LOVE it. I am so thankful for you and i pray for you. I hope that you are doing great and are getting the encouragement you need. Thanks for always coming back.
EVERYONE: thank you, thank you, thank you for the tips. They have been great :) the tip that I have found overall that helps me is go out and serve. Sitting here thinking about how I might give In is pointless. When I reach out to others it helps me so much. My addiction is selfish and by serving others has helped me more than anything!!
It also helps when you have priesthood blessings I am so grateful for them and that my dad is close and worthy to give me one :) I am so hard hard on myself, I think we all are. Through a fathers blessing I am able to realign my life with gods and get close to him again. I can also do this through prayer. I am so grateful for prayer and I know he is there listening to ALL of us.
I am SO grateful for ALL of you. Thanks so much for all your help. I am praying for you all! Hope that everything is well with all of you. :)"
posted at 23:25:49 on March 23, 2011 by Helpme
here's my BEST tip    
"Let your Temptations be turned into Inspiration

-when you get a prompting (an evil one) to look at porn or mb... treat it like a 'check engine' light indicator.

-immediately.. you can route your brain.. to say...hmm... what does that mean.. let me look under the hood.

-then you can trace it back... ok... I'm lonely, hmm... do I have any friends? should I call any of them? who needs to hear from me? who wants to hear from me?

am I tired? do I just need to go to sleep? do I need to get a massage? do I need stretch and just chill out?

am I hungry? do I need to eat healthy food.. where can I get that..

do I need to work out? (excess energy)

anyway... I share my testimony.. that some of my favorite parts of life.. so far... have been right in the middle of those 'tests' because the amazing thing.. is that you you get to see the hand of GOD... you get the trial...and then you get to see the miracle.

it's a different way to live.. but when temptations come.. and you start immediately falling to your knees... or journaling... or calling someone... I can imagine an entire Chorus of Angels rejoicing in heaven.


because it's late at night... stuff that has worked for me

24 hour gym fitness membership
getting permission from a few MEN to call them late (other addicts will love you for those calls)
journaling
find a 24 hour cafe (like Dennys)
go to sleep early (like stupid early) and wake up early
come to this site.. anytime! I love this site..when tempted late at night... "
posted at 01:18:38 on March 24, 2011 by gracefull
Thanks Helpme    
"Thanks! That really means a lot to me. I'm doing OK, although my counselor says I'm doing better than I think I am or give myself credit for. I'll try to post soon about what I've learned this week. Keep up the good work and keep us posted on how you're doing."
posted at 00:27:02 on March 25, 2011 by dstanley
what i do...    
"It may not work for everyone and sometimes it does work for me.Think of somebody you love think of how you want to be a better person for them and they wouldn't want you to be doing these types of things.Or just think of god he wouldn't want you to be doing this and he loves you that stops me right there knowing i am loved by god."
posted at 09:01:45 on March 26, 2011 by Teddy


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