Step 5
By ican2
2/11/2010 9:57:08 AM
I have econfessed tomy wife and bishop about the more recent thins but who should i unveil my whole past to?


Your Bishop and Heavenly Father!    
"good luck"
posted at 17:30:44 on February 11, 2010 by Anonymous
Yourself, God, Priesthood Authority and Another Individual.    
"I did my 5th step with my bishop and part way through he stopped me and said, “I think we have covered enough.” I think he was right as far as what I needed to go over with him, but I decided later that an addict has many things that don’t need to be confessed to the bishop, but they need to get out and process so that they can let go of them. Things that happened to them, events that may have lead to a lower self-esteem even embarrassing or shameful things etc. These can be things that are driving their addiction that will make it difficult for them to recover until they are taken care of. I think this why the LDS 5th Step talks about the proper priesthood authority and another individual. You can share the things that the bishop needs to hear with him and then you can take care of all the garbage with someone that understands the recovery process and can listen to the things that the bishop doesn’t need to hear and probably doesn’t have the time for. I would find a person that you trust with experience in 12 Step recovery. I have known people to do it with their spouse and it turned out to be a negative thing. You have to be honest with your spouse, but since they are often victims of the addictive behavior too much detail can end up making the situation worse. The Church’s 12 Step manual gives some good guidance on finding the right person to share it with.

I wish I had shared my 5th Step with someone else. It may have shortened the time it took to get where I am now. Someone with experience could have guided me to include things that I left out. I only put the things in my inventory that I had done wrong and now I know that a complete inventory includes so much more.

If you haven’t found a sponsor yet, they highly recommend that it is someone of the same gender.

Best of luck to you."
posted at 18:26:35 on February 12, 2010 by justjohn

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