Doing Better, One Step at a Time
By needhelp38
11/23/2009 12:20:59 AM
I know that I can't get complacent, but I'm doing much better for a few reasons:

*I went to the temple last week for the first time in about four months and I have committed to going every week

*I finally had a sit-down talk with the dad of the kids I nanny for about the offensive conversations, my free time, and the kids' behavior

*I went on my first date since my ex-boyfriend...kind of a big deal because it's symbolic of me moving on from him

*I've started taking dance classes again, picked up the guitar again, and am trying to make more time for things that I enjoy in addition to time with the Lord rather than just time-wasters

*Heavenly Father just keeps placing people in my life that remind me how special I am

I still struggle with immoral thoughts, but I know I just need to take things one day at a time.


Helping Others    
"And I would also like to take more time to help others on here seeing as I have received so much support on here. Oh! I forgot to mention that I have finally started working through reading and answering the questions in my journal from the 12 step manual."
posted at 00:25:20 on November 23, 2009 by needhelp38
I'm happy for you!    
"It's nice to hear that you're doing so much better now. I hope you keep your commitment to going to the temple. My Bishop wants me to start going to the temple again, but I still feel uncomfortable about going in there, because I've only been sober for a little over two weeks. Your goal has inspired me to set my own goal of visiting the temple grounds at least once a week, even if I only take a few minutes to ponder and pray in the parking lot.

Getting involved in things you enjoy, like the dance classes and playing the guitar, is a good idea in my opinion. Life is a lot better when we're productive and active.

Thanks for being such a positive example! Keep it up, you're making significant progress!"
posted at 10:14:49 on November 24, 2009 by ETTE
Temple Worthy    
"Needhelp, so good to hear from you! I'm glad you are doing better. I hope your situation has improved since talking to the kids' dad. I hope the spirit is filling your life as you attend the temple. You ARE special. As I read everyone's posts, I'm beginning to think that anyone valiantly struggling with these problems must be special.

Ette, we are our own harshest judges some times. If your Bishop, knowing your current issues, suggests you attend the temple more often, I think you should take him up on the offer. The temple will HELP you lift your thoughts to a higher plane. It will PROTECT you.

The temple is not for perfect people. It is for people striving to reach perfection...some day. Yes, it is a holy, clean place. But there are NO perfect people. Everyone who attends is struggling with some sin or another.

Just as Satan wants us to believe we are unworthy of the atonement and we are unworthy of prayer, he would love for each of us to think we are unworthy of attending the temple or doing the Lord's work. Ignore that. To quote the father of a prophet, "Forget yourself, and get to work [in the temple].""
posted at 22:11:23 on November 30, 2009 by BeClean
Thank you very much    
"Ette: I did skip a week, but I didn't let it get me down. I went last week & I plan on going on Fri morning to get back to once a week. I would also like to echo what BeClean said. I withheld from the sacrament for too long & when I told my Bishop he told me I could have started taking it a few weeks before. It's like BeClean said about the Bishop told me that the sacrament is "for the penitent, not the perfect." I fully understand that you want to feel worthy to be in the Lord's house. Basically, ditto to everything that BeClean said.

BeClean: Thank you so very much for your kind words on this post & on a previous post. I still struggle once in a while, sometimes greatly struggle with the immoral thoughts, but I'm also better about studying my scriptures. Things are still stressful with my job sometimes & I'm still being pulled in more than I should, but I think having that serious sit-down talk will just make any other talks much, much easier.

I've only seen that guy at the house a few times in the last few weeks & I pretty much ignore him. The timing also seems to be divine that I'm at my parents' house during the day more often while the kids are at school & I'll think, "Well, I don't need to leave just yet." And I come back to the house & if he is there he is busy working or like one time I was literally coming to the house as he was leaving. I've also been better with studying my scriptures. Sometimes during my free time I waste time because I just don't want to think & it was so hard for me to read my scriptures for some reason, but I am finally catching up on conference & taking notes on that as well. Thanks for the encouragement. :-)"
posted at 00:18:58 on December 3, 2009 by needhelp38

Add a Comment:

***Anonymous User***     (login above to post UN-anonymously)

"I have come to know that thoughts, like water, will stay on course if we make a place for them to go. Otherwise, our thoughts follow the course of least resistance, always seeking the lower levels. Probably the greatest challenge and the most difficult thing you will face in mortal life is to learn to control your thoughts. In the Bible it says, as a man ‘thinketh in his heart, so is he’ (Prov. 23:7). One who can control his thoughts has conquered himself. As you learn to control your thoughts, you can overcome habits, even degrading personal habits. You can gain courage, conquer fear, and have a happy life. "

— Boyd K. Packer

BYU, Speeches of the Year, 26 Sept. 1967