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Sierra and Scott are you still there?
By ROBIN
11/16/2009 9:16:34 AM
Are you?

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Guys?    
"Robin isn't the only one wondering...."
posted at 20:29:37 on November 17, 2009 by BeClean
I'm still here :)    
"Hi Robin! I've been a terrible friend and hope you don't feel that I've abandoned you. I want to tell you what's been going on in my life and I want to hear how you've been doing too. I've gotta run to class but I'll try to post later. I hope you're well! Please tell me you are!"
posted at 09:29:17 on December 1, 2009 by sierra
so cool to hear from you!    
"I figured you were really busy. Are you just about DONE with your classes? I am glad to hear you are still sticking with it. I don't get on here as much as I use to , but I think of you often and pray that things are good for you and your family.

I have been taking some classes to and loving it, although it does complicate things ;o). I am trying to decide whether to go back full time.....no a lot of support there and not sure what would be best for my family. I feel a huge pull to do it and I am not sure why, because I am not sure it would be best for my marriage or my kids.

I down loaded the first part of the 12 steps for loved ones. I wish I could be part of a support group. I feel so darn lonely some times. Life has a lot of ups and downs ;o/. I am going to keep checking for a "Sierra update" and expect it after you classes end this month ;o)

Much, much love,
Robin"
posted at 23:34:22 on December 2, 2009 by robin
Deal    
"I will definitely post an update very soon. I don't even know where to begin! I know it'll take awhile to type out and I'm in the middle of studying for finals and finishing my research project. When I have time I'll come fill you in on the craziness of my life these last few months. I'm glad you're back in school! Don't let anything stop you from it. The prophets have said to get an education. Just gently remind your husband that you're just trying to follow the prophet! Hard to argue with that one.... Talk soon....Sierra"
posted at 13:51:11 on December 4, 2009 by sierra
patiently waiting    
"Good luck on your finals. I am proud of you and really want to get the full scoop on how you are."
posted at 00:56:17 on December 9, 2009 by robin
Hi Robin, Im still here    
"I have been stepping up my recovery. I am in the Lifestar program. We meet once a week as a group of sex addicts with our wives. I am the only one there without my wife. It is not easy living alone and dealing with this addiction. This weekend I am flying to Phoenix to bring my wife home for good. We have found her a job here. I also attend recovery meetings almost every day. I have off and on continued to struggle with my addiction(not exposing). I am now learning how to change the way I think and act. I hope and pray that I can change. For me it’s the only option I have. I will die if I don’t get a handle on my compulsive behaviors. I will die both physically and spiritually. My eternal progression depends on it. I have learned that all these years of acting out has change my brain physically and how it works. It can heal it just takes a lot of mental concentration and forcing myself to think differently. I know I can’t do it on my own. I know that with the Lords help and surrounding myself with people who can help me and give me positive affirmation I can change over time. The most difficult part is the more I work on my recovery the more I get defensive and rebel. The urges to act out get stronger. I have been told that will change. I tell myself now I can do this and I know that the rebelling is my brain telling me I can’t do it when I know that it is a lie. I have to make a conscious choice in every decision I make. Habit would tell me to do otherwise. I have work books that that have writing exercises in them that help me to be more conscious of what’s going on when I think or act a certain way. This and with God and several others from my group I can be accountable in healthy ways. It took me over 40 years to get here. I will make it if it takes me the rest of my life. My wife has committed to stand by my side. That’s how much she loves me. I am the luckiest man in the world. I am so very humbled by this experience of recovery from one of the most offensive and embarrassing sexual addictions there is. I admit it, I confess it and now I am overcoming it. I would love to know what the percentage of addicts that recovers from my type of addiction. I’m sure its probably pretty low.

Robin if your online and read this I would love to hear from you. Its good to read your postings too sierra. Are you still in nursing?

Scott"
posted at 07:34:31 on January 26, 2010 by smwil46
yes!    
"Scott, how cool to hear from you! I don't get on here very often, but when I do I always look for you. I have been praying for you and have a heavy heart when I see you haven't been here. I am sooooo darn happy to hear you are doing so well. You are amazing! Don't let any deciption make you feel otherwise. You are going to make it. I know Heavely Father loves you very much and you are so important to him. I just know he is and will continue to help you. Have you read the book BRAIN LOCK? It is about overcoming obsessive behaviors and was suggested to us.
It is good to here your wife will be back. Be good to her.
Thank you so much for posting. It just made my day!"
posted at 10:19:18 on January 26, 2010 by robin


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