Young woman just looking to stop :(
By Revorg12
6/14/2009 11:47:05 PM
Hi, I'm Sam. I'm 15 years old and I've had a sexual addiction to pornography and masturbation since I was 8 years old. I handled a lot of depression because of the challenges I had to face as a young child and I think the only way I found an escape from my suicidal mood was by my compulsive sexual behavior. I don't know how I fell into my first tempting experience, but I hate myself for ever starting. It's the one thing I most regret in my life.

I've gotten to the point where I'm sick and disgusted by myself and can't stand it anymore. As much as my desire to quit, it's too hard.

Also, I've always kind of felt like I was the only young woman out there that had this problem. Most of the time people talk to the young men or the priesthood about this type of problem, so I feel like because I'm a girl nobody realizes that girls can have this problem too. And I really would like to not feel like I'm the only lds young woman with this issue, it would really help me if I could find another yw to help support me.

If anyone has any advice or supportive words it'd mean a ton.


Definitely not alone.    
You are definitely not alone. It may be more common among the guys, (I’m one of them) but many girls deal with it too. I have a wife that dealt with masturbation when she was young and then quit in her youth. I know of a number of women here on this site and through the Church’s Addiction Recovery Program who deal with sexual addiction. They even have a few meetings along the Wasatch Front, in Utah that are just for women with sexual issues.

The 12 Steps can help anyone apply the Atonement to any problem. It really works. The Lord loves you. Hang in there."
posted at 17:48:35 on June 15, 2009 by justjohn
Good For You    
"Revorg12, I may be 21, but I am a female who is a sex addict. I've dealt with masturbation, pornography, and inappropriate sexual behavior with boys. I promise you are not alone. I give you much praise for being so young and wanting to stop. I wish I would have known I actually had a problem at that age but I didn't know what I was doing was wrong until after high school. I go to a 12 step group that is only for women with sexual addictions. We're small but we exist. You are definitely not alone because there is at least me with the same problem. I'd love to talk to you whether it be over this website or over email or IM. Good luck, there is hope at stopping this and I know you'll be able to do it if you are willing to work at it. Let me know what’s going on, okay? I'm here for you."
posted at 21:30:25 on June 15, 2009 by Matrix
"You found them! I don't think you would consider me a "Young Woman" anymore, by church standards anyway, but I am a woman with a sexual addiction as well. I agree with Matrix, good for you! When I was 15 I had no idea what I was doing, I knew it was wrong, but I couldn't put a name to it. I think seeking out this website is a good first step to recovery.

You are NOT alone! Even if you were they only girl with this problem (you're not) Heavenly Father has always got your back, if you let Him.

Best wishes"
posted at 23:11:13 on June 15, 2009 by toes_23
You are not alone    
"I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I am a woman who has dealt with an addiction to masturbation for nearly my entire life (I started when I was 5). I wish that I would have realized much earlier that this was, in fact, an addiction and not just a bad habit. I don't think I could be considered a "young" woman any more (I'm 29), but I just want you to know that I have been there. I was about your age the first time that I ever confessed my problem to a bishop. I wish that the 12 step program would have been around then, I am confident that if I would have been able to go through the steps then, I could have saved myself a lot of anguish. In stead, I tried time after time to quit alone, when in reality the only way to truly be healed is through the Savior. The church's 12 step program WORKS, because it is based on the Savior and on healing the internal hurt, depression, anger and other feelings that trigger addictive behaviors, not just quitting the behavior.

Talk to your bishop. I promise you that although it is difficult, you can overcome these addictions.

The Lord's sacrifice is big enough for all of us. He loves you, there is nothing you can do that will make him take away the love he has for you, or the mercy he will extend to you. "
posted at 23:34:10 on June 15, 2009 by ican
This is the place    
"Hi Sam-

I came to this site in desperation last October struggling with the same question. Was I the only girl with this problem? To my great relief I found that I wasn't as weird as I thought! The women (and the men) on this site understood so much of what I was going through, and their advice and support have been invaluable to me. I'm not exactly a young woman either, (I'm 26) but I've struggled with pornography addiction and masturbation since I was little, and have felt sick and disgusted with myself for much of my life. Matrix, Toes 23, ICAN, and myself (purityquest) are the girls I know of on this site. Go back and read our blogs, you will see that you are not alone!

I'm on a wonderful path to complete recovery right now, and i owe so much of what I have learned and the strength i have received to the wonderful people on this site. This program works, the gospel works. I have been to the deepest pit of despair i can imagine, and the Atonement still pulled me out. Don't worry about being strong enough, you don't have to save yourself- just be willing to let Christ work on you. No one is beyond his reach.

We love you! Whatever you do, don't give up! Keep reading, and keep blogging, it really will help!"
posted at 02:35:11 on June 18, 2009 by purityquest

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"In a decaying environment, the mind is the last redoubt of righteousness, and it must be preserved even amid bombardment by evil stimuli. Christ is competent to see us through, “for in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succour them that are tempted” As promised, He will make either “a way to escape” or a way “to bear it”."

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General Conference May 1987