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Trouble Heart!!!
By bignavajo
6/11/2008 11:37:31 PM
I have been sober for about 3 months and I am still attending meetings mostly every day with my fiance whom i love vey much. I told my bishop everything about my past and it felt really really good toget it off my chest and I feel that I am on step 6 of the recovery program. But that is as far as i have gotten and its starting to irritate me a little bit. I totally feel the spirit in these meetings and feel that it is the only way to get better. But i have recently started to smoke and I know that it is wrong but I still feel the cravings for alcohol and it is the only way that I can get rid of them. I am afraid that if I start to drink cuz I want to but if I do that I wont be able to stop and I am fustrated. I pray alot more since I have been going to the meetings but the cravings get worse. I just need advice from anyone PLEASE!!! anything would be appreciated

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Hi Bignavajo    
"Congratulations on staying sober for 3 months. I'm a recovering alcoholic, too. I have 6 years sober and I did it by following a few simple suggestions through the years. First, I went to ALOT of meetings. In my area the LDS 12 Step meeting was only once a week so I went to AA meetings on the other days. (Yes, every single day! at first) Second, I got a sponsor to work the Steps with. When I asked this man to sponsor me I was already on Step 8...so I thought. He had me start them over and we did them right. Third, and this is an important one, I gave my self a break. It's ok if you're smoking. One thing at a time! I completely understand, though, because when I had 30 days, or so, sober I decided I needed to quit smoking only to have the craving for drinking come back. Heavenly Father doesn't require that we run faster than we can walk. The smoking is a character defect that is addressed in Steps 6 and 7 when we truly get to them. If you follow this path I think you have a great chance of recovering from this insidious disease. We're not bad people trying to be good; we're sick people trying to be well. This wise old lady who's in heaven now once told me that God holds children and drunks in the palm of His hand. I think I believe it and I believe it goes for all addicts and all loved ones of addicts. We're meted out some SERIOUS patience and mercy because we do suffer from a disease. That being said, once we've been introduced to the 12 Steps we are completely responsible for utilizing them. If we choose to continue to do it our way and are defiant and continue to harm those that love us, it is to our eternal detriment. Good luck."
posted at 00:35:38 on June 12, 2008 by Anonymous
Keep Going    
"One of the things that always helps me when I'm struggling or craving alcohol or anything impure, I think of the temple. I think of getting married in the temple and I think of how far I have come on my journey to the temple. I think that I don't want to do anything wrong because I don't want to disrupt my progress towards the temple. For me it seems like the most wonderful and amazing thing to be sealed to man of my dreams there and it helps me to go another hour, another day, another week without giving in. Good luck and congrats on being 3 months sober. I know you can do it, I'm about 6 months sober so I know your struggles. You will be in my prayers :-)"
posted at 09:02:15 on September 4, 2008 by jrl034
Big Navjo    
"Everyday is a challenge. Sometimes every minute! Always, always call someone. We cannot overcome alcohol alone.Pima"
posted at 16:00:57 on March 6, 2009 by Anonymous


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