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A Bit Confused
By intothewest
4/15/2015 3:50:45 AM
There is something that has been happening to me that is quite worrying. I go to bed, and without fail an hour after I fall asleep, I wake up with sexual urges that are often so intense that I masturbate and follow that desire where I shouldn't. Some days the desires aren't that strong and I can fall back asleep. Others they are more powerful so that in resisting the urge I force myself awake and can't fall back asleep. Sometimes they are so powerful that I do the deed semiconsciously and fall back asleep. I recently messed up during one of these times by calling some numbers I shouldn't have and am going to talk to the bishop. During the waking hours, my sex drive is very manageable. I would never seek out stimulation while fully awake, but for some reason all normal constraints don't apply when I've just been awoken early into my night's sleep.

In the past, this time of the night is when I would have had wet dreams. Even though I don't enjoy the images from the dreams sticking around with me after the dream, I would prefer them to waking up with those intense desires. Do you guys have any suggestions or similar experiences?

Comments:

my experience    
"intothewest,
my experience has been like that a lot lately as well. I am wondering if some of it has to do with what I am thinking about or listening to as I fall asleep. I agree with you I had a couple of experiences recently where I woke up in the middle of the night and hand an m issue. Unlike the wet dream I believe I had some choice in the matter, but also almost felt like I was someone comopletely different in an out of body experience almost. I know I had some choice in the matter... and I am trying to hold myself accountable more. I use to just choke it up to not taking my medicine. Being honest with myself though I have to dig a little deeper"
posted at 15:33:51 on April 15, 2015 by sjanderson
Maybe I'm crazy....    
"I honestly believe that we can be spiritually influenced for good or evil while we are sleeping. As a matter of fact while Ive been sleeping I've commanded bad spirits to depart from me while I'm sleeping. I think that although we are asleep we know that we can have revelation. Such as Lehi dreams... We also know that satan never sleeps or stops his workings upon us. I would pray for protection before you sleep and also for strength. Good luck."
posted at 16:30:41 on April 15, 2015 by Anonymous
Thoughts Before Sleep    
"SJANDERSON-
Thanks for your post. It's nice to know that someone else struggles with the same think I do. What I am thinking about definitely has an impact. Right before I go to bed, I am in the living room. Sometimes, a roommate watches a show that has racy humor. I'll deal with that and pray that I won't be influenced by bad thoughts. Does anybody else have suggestions?"
posted at 21:43:40 on April 15, 2015 by intothewest
Thoughts Before Sleep    
"SJANDERSON-
Thanks for your post. It's nice to know that someone else struggles with the same think I do. What I am thinking about definitely has an impact. Right before I go to bed, I am in the living room. Sometimes, a roommate watches a show that has racy humor. I'll deal with that and pray that I won't be influenced by bad thoughts. Does anybody else have suggestions?"
posted at 22:43:19 on April 15, 2015 by intothewest
One more thing    
"I am working with a friend who is helping me see that I am NOT my behavior. That I am a child of God with infinite value and worth. We had a really good discussion last night about this topic and I am beginning to see how focusing too much on my addict status can be a negative cycle for me. That the mind does have great power in what I think and focus upon. I hope this helps. What I am saying is, recognizing that I am broken, that I need help is important and key to making progress in my life, but rehashing the behavior and taking that on as a badge or identification has been a disservice to me. Putting this into practice will be the next step, but felt like I should share."
posted at 07:33:27 on April 16, 2015 by sjanderson
story of david    
"Have you read the story of David in the bible? I would encourage you to re read it. Its amazing how we are tested when we have little sleep. I'm a spouse of an addict so what I have to share is from that perspective. Satan will tempt you when you are most vulnerable. Your body chemistry is also literally changed when you deal with addiction. Its not uncommon for people who struggle with these issues to have issues where the body craves the chemical response in order to fall or stay asleep. Like drugs the farther away you get the less of a hold it will have on you, but its hard work to "detox" your body. Pray pray pray to your heavenly father during these times. Also, try changing your habits...are you able to fit exercise in before a wind down period at bedtime? Your body will release dopimines and endorphins but in a healthy way. Just my two cents."
posted at 18:25:57 on April 22, 2015 by Anonymous
Wear Tight Pants    
"I heard a talk by someone who suffers from this condition. Spiritually, he suggests to pray and surrender the right to have lustful dreams. The second more physically practical thing he mentioned was to wear really tight underwear(over garment if applicable), pants that are button up, and a belt. By the time you work through the layers you are awake enough to manage the urges and resist them. Sounds pretty uncomfortable, but the idea is not how comfortable we sleep but preventing a behavior."
posted at 13:40:15 on May 5, 2015 by Anonymous
Same Story    
"intothewest, I know its been almost a year since you posted this but just in case you look at this again and are still struggling...
I have had the same experience. Over an extended period of time, these things would always happen right after I fall asleep or right before I wake up. So weird.
Anyway, what helped me was not just praying before going to bed but taking a solid 20 - 30 minutes away from everything just to listen to calm music (I chose hymns) and read the scriptures and pray. It really helped."
posted at 20:39:46 on January 23, 2016 by Anonymous


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