By R_Matt
2/4/2015 6:34:58 AM
Working on Step 3.

I went through a really good exercise with my sponsor to identify all things that have twisted my perception of God as He truly is. Through the process, I realized I hadn't fully embraced who He is! One of my biggest hang - ups is FREE AGENCY. I try to crawl into His arms when times are tough or going good and expect Him to live my life for me. Then He puts me out on my own and I think I've got to do it all by myself, so I start screwing up my life and then crawl back into His hands. Through the 3rd step I'm learning to walk and also learning He will Council me, Talk to me, warn me, Love me, but He's not going to do it for me because of He respects of my free agency. I've got to Go and Do.

I can trace this back to my Dad's insistence that we can only depend on ourselves though our own guidance, when I'd come to Him for help he'd get frustrated and angry. Though I despised this and knew God wasn't like that, I incorporated it into my life; it did shape my perception of how God is.

Step three helped me realize this and many others blocks I had set up preventing me from really getting to know God and accept his guidance.


"I recently read a good talk (given to me by my wife). It spoke about the atonement. How the debt is paid for us. We have often been taught that Christ pays the remainder after "all we can do." This talk (I will get name and author later) compares Christ to a mother of a piano playing child. The mother pays the piano teachers bills and asks her child to practice. Practice or not - the bill is paid.
The talk then continues to state that if the student wants to truly take advantage of the paid lessons, he must practice. This is compared to when we face God after this life. Many people will feel shame in His presence and will beg to quickly leave. Our part of the atonement (the piano practice) is not about paying the debt but about learning to be better. So that we can stand tall in God's presence.
God bless you for your continued growth. I hope to shake the hands of everyone on this site in heaven one day. I look forward to meeting everyone, smiling and knowing that we made it."
posted at 08:25:18 on February 4, 2015 by SWarrior
SWarrior - Great talk    
"It sounds like you are referring to the Brad Wilcox talk "His Grace is Sufficient". You can find it on YouTube:

You may have read a similar Brad Wilcox talk, such as Learning (Not Earning) Heaven, but this definitely sounds like Brad Wilcox. Awesome speaker!"
posted at 21:58:00 on February 4, 2015 by rmww
That is the one    
"RMWW You got it right. That's the one. Thank you."
posted at 07:32:22 on February 5, 2015 by SWarrior

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"The solution to this problem ultimately is neither governmental nor institutional. Nor is it a question of legality. It is a matter of individual choice and commitment. Agency must be understood. The importance of the will in making crucial choices must be known. Then steps toward relief can follow."

— Russell M. Nelson