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Masterbate and a mission
By Dmackdog
9/9/2014 12:13:32 AM
So I have been struggling with a masterbation and porn addiction for the past 4 years. I am now 18 years old and am wondering, if I talk to my bishop and repent fully can I still serve an honorable full time mission for the church? I don't know how serious of a sin masterbation is so I don't know if that will keep me from going on a missin? Please reply and help because I am desperate!

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My Advice and Testimony    
"First off, thank you for your righteous desires to serve the Lord. You have a good heart and yes, you can go on a mission. God loves you and wants you to move past this addiction. Looking at porn and masturbation are sins, however, if that alone barred young men from ever serving missions, there would be almost no missionaries! There are very few sins that will keep you from serving missions. Now obviously, it will take some time to get over. It has most likely become an addiction by now and will take time, effort, and reliance on Christ's atonement and grace that will help you. Speak with your bishop and he will counsel you on how to go about the repentance process.

As a returned missionary who has struggled with masturbation and porn before my mission, I know that through Christ's atonement, repentance is possible. As humans, we have natural urges that are very hard to contain (especially in such a culture that constantly encourages sin). I know that Christ lives. He will help you. There are many resources that will aid you on your path back to worthiness. A mission has been such a blessing in my life. I grew to love the people with whom I served so much. The Lord permitted me to bring the joy of the gospel into many lives when I was there. It is possible to repent. Please don't give up."
posted at 02:24:20 on September 9, 2014 by intothewest
Normal    
"FWIW - I am going to make up a statistic here, but in my experience most (more than 50%) of people you will serve with, both men and women, have struggled with porn and WAY MORE will have struggled with masturbation. And those are the ones going on missions. The ones that you will teach....ya, it's even higher than that.

This is as common as being a liar. Because it is common doesn't mean it is ok. It means that we can all relate to each other and show compassion. You can be a better missionary because of your experiences, both good and bad.

Because it is a sexual sin, the Church says you need to work with a Bishop as part of your repentance process. Don't be afraid of that. It'll be fine. You can do this!"
posted at 07:20:42 on September 9, 2014 by Maddy
Best thing to do    
"Talk to your bishop and be honest. Make sure to emphasize your desire for a mission and you willingness to change. Porn is actually the real addiction, masturbation just comes with it. You should definitely be working towards stopping the porn, that is the real problem."
posted at 16:29:39 on September 16, 2014 by Anonymous
DONT GO!    
"I dont know if your bishop will understand what's going on or not, but looking at pornography and masturbating SHOULD keep you from going on a mission until you are in recovery, which can take some time.
I will tell you a secret. When getting ready to go on a mission, I mean GETTING READY, like my stake president was going to send in my papers, and I told him I looked at porn and sometimes masturbated. But I lied. I said i had done it before, some months ago, when in actuality it was probably just days ago.
I went on my mission. first huge awakening. I went on a mission and realized, wait, Im still human, I still want to check out chicks, look at porn, and masturbate. I fought it, I fought it for maybe 2 months before I gave in. The rest of my mission was sobriety and relapse cycles. I would talk to my mission president, and he would tell me to stop, and I'd lie and say it didn't happen as much as it did.
Guess what? I have SO MUCH regret. I mean, I did good concidering. I tried. I worked as hard as I could, but I still have that stain to think about. I went on a mission, i went through the temple, unworthily. Its sad. and I wish more than anything that I would have stayed home and gotten the help I needed. Seriously, I have dreams all the time that I get to go back out on my mission and I'm so happy because I've got the most sobriety i've ever had and can really connect with others now.
Don't go. If you are having problems with it, please don't go. Get the help you need and then go and you will be so SO SO SO much more affective as a missionary."
posted at 02:59:08 on November 11, 2014 by Anoni Mouse
A Rebuttal    
"While ANONI MOUSE is right, I think his/her timing is off. Yes, it's obvious that you shouldn't go on a mission when you're looking at porn and masturbating, but that's not what you need to hear right now. You're not at the point that ANONI MOUSE was when he lied to go on a mission. Yes, you can and should go on a mission. That should motivate you to repent. And while the Lord has certain standards, you can meet them through the repentance process. Remember, it's okay to fall if you keep trying to get up. Talk to your bishop and he will help you."
posted at 23:53:28 on November 11, 2014 by intothewest
if masterbation meant no mission    
"There would be like no one serving missions."
posted at 10:16:02 on November 12, 2014 by Anonymous
If Masturbation Meant No Mission, GOOD.    
"I'm just saying, you shouldn't go on a mission if your still acting out all the time. Makes sense to me. If you were a heroin addict but wanted to serve a mission, do you think it would be better for you to go still shooting up every day or wait until you have some sobriety or possibly recovery under your belt? I meet a lot of guys that come home early from missions because they have to work on their addiction. So yeah, I think God would rather you NOT go on a mission until you receive help rather than go and lie to everyone. haha. So yeah, if masturbation meant not going on a mission, and that meant that no one would be serving a mission, that would be awesome because everyone would be being honest with themselves and doing the right thing by confronting the addiction/problem that's causing them to isolate and feel unnecessary amounts of shame and self loathing.
Not to mention there's so much more going on with addiction than sin and repentance. I'd go to rowboatandmarbles.org, his book Sitting in a Rowboat Throwing Marbles at a Battleship is amazing and has a lot of good information in it.
I'm not saying NEVER go. As I said before, get help, seek healing, and go on a mission if going on a mission is what you want to do. But I think it's the perfect time to hear"Don't go until you've gotten help" since that's what you were asking."
posted at 00:40:03 on November 14, 2014 by anoni mouse
Seek help, but don't rule out a mission!    
"Get the help you need. Be humble, talk to your bishop, talk to your stake president, talk to your parents. Get professional counseling if necessary! We just had a presentation on pornography in our ward from the LDS family service missionaries who are responsible for half of the eastern states and just got done with training many leaders on what is going on. The new stats released say that 50% of current active members struggle with porn addiction and 80%, yeah 80%!!!!! Of CURRENT missionaries struggle with the addiction!!! You are not alone, and this likely won't be your Bishop or Stake presidents first rodeo. Get your parents involved, get in a group or professional counseling. It helped so much, and I was jealous of the younger premi's in my group that were working things out and doing it right! Get the help you need, "clean the inner vessell", focus on you, do what has to be done, and then go serve. You will serve with more power, authority, and conviction. You will also serve with more compassion and mercy on your investigators, companions and ward members, because you will be able to relate to the humility it takes to change and the pain involved in the process of purification."
posted at 18:26:01 on January 20, 2015 by WHATTODO2
Anoni    
"In response to you being glad on no one going on a mission.

It isn't up to you to decide who is worthy to go on a mission. That is the bishop and stake presidents job. In fact, I had a problem when I got my missionary interview, and my stake president said to read the book of Mormon and to stay strong. I got my call two weeks later.

I feel like a lot of people here are fear mongers."
posted at 10:12:23 on February 2, 2015 by Anonymous


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