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By g1rlie
6/15/2014 12:08:27 PM
It's been two years since I've started my journey of recovery.

I am a woman who is a sex addict. My problem was with infidelity.

In the past couple of years, I've learned some things. For instance, I learned that part of the reason for my infidelity was because I didn't have certain skills. Not did I have any self-esteem. Been working Really hard at learning these things through SA and therapy.

It's been a long, hard road out of hell.

So, what's been going on, lately? A certain buttwagon (yes, I did just resort to name-calling) that I'd been involved with (Greg) called me a fee months ago. He was in town and had rented a room at a hotel and wanted me to join him. But those times he called me, I didn't talk to him. Then, Jr mailed me a secret prepaid phone to my work. He called me on it. I talked to him. Talking to him just made meangry, though, because my eyes have been opened. And I know who he is, now. This man is literally a servant of the devil. He uses the same language and methods that the adversary and hid servants use. Tried to get in through the smallest crack in the door. He even told me he has a girlfriend, but still wants to act out with me, anyways. Lame.

Yeah, I got rid of that phone. Told him not to call me, anymore.

It's really hard to accept that I got myself into this stupid situation. And it's been hard to accept that there is this seemingly sociopathic man out there that knows the difference between right and wrong, but just doesn't care. He doesn't care that it destroys me inside to do things with him, either.

At the same time, I realize my good fortune. My husband had never given up on me, and that means so much to me. Therefore, I get to keep my family. Yay.

Guess things are looking up.

Comments:

glad to hear your progress    
"Girlie,
so glad to hear your victory and pray for contiued vcitry for you. I to am grateful for my family, and more even grateful to God for giving them to me. There are things that drive me crazy, that i let hurt me, but I am trying to work through those things and recieve the grace that he wants to give me so very freely.

Cheers"
posted at 14:31:34 on June 15, 2014 by sjanderson
glad to hear your progress    
"Girlie,
so glad to hear your victory and pray for contiued vcitry for you. I to am grateful for my family, and more even grateful to God for giving them to me. There are things that drive me crazy, that i let hurt me, but I am trying to work through those things and recieve the grace that he wants to give me so very freely.

Cheers"
posted at 14:43:00 on June 15, 2014 by sjanderson
Hey Girly!    
"I love hearing you call him names. That may be wrong but I don't care. Can you write a few more nasty names, just for the fun of it?!? Ha!

Kudos to you and kudos to your hubby. My therapist talks to me all the time about getting tools and using the right ones for the right job. Starting to see what he means...

Anyway, I am glad you stopped by. It sounds like you are doing awesome!"
posted at 16:00:41 on June 16, 2014 by maddy
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"I am glad to here you are doing well Girlie and that your eyes have been opened to the truth.

I am not doing as well as you. A few days ago I messed up. I looked at pornography and after I was done doing that I masturbated. It had almost been two years for me. I am trying to repent and not go back again. Satan's minions tell me since I have messed up to just go indulge. So far I am not going back. I pray the LORD give me the strength I need to continue to walk in His ways."
posted at 23:54:11 on June 18, 2014 by Anonymous
To the above Anon    
"Remember, it's about progress, not perfection. Hang in there. You are worth it and are made for better things.

...a different Anon"
posted at 22:45:01 on June 20, 2014 by Anonymous
Thanks    
"Thank you for your kind support, everyone. And to the anonymous person, please don't give up. You had a good days of sobriety and some great recovery.

And, if anyone else out there becomes sexually addicted to someone that constantly lies to you and gaslights you until you feel you've lost your mind, you may be dealing with a sociopath/psychopath. They are not like regular people. They do not experience emotions in the same way regular people do. They have no empathy. Research sociopathology and psychopathology. A good friend gave me this advice and it really opened my eyes and helped me find closure.

Still healing, though. I've instituted a No Contact Ever Again policy with my former AO partner.

...Girlie"
posted at 06:32:06 on June 21, 2014 by Anonymous
Follow up from June 18th    
"This is my follow up from June 18th. On June 15th I messed up. I looked at pornography and after I was done doing that I masturbated.

I have been clean for about 9 days now. I am looking forward to my 40 day mark. It had been about 660 days since I had previously masturbated.

I was browsing the Internet for entertainment late at night which was a mistake. I listened to the whisperings of demons and started looking at hand drawn sexual pictures and it went on from there.

I will just get up and keep moving on even though I feel rotten about giving in to temptation."
posted at 23:48:22 on June 24, 2014 by Anonymous
Dear Anon    
"Hey, you had a lot of good days. No need to be so hard on yourself. Just get back up again and keep on trying. God loves you and does not give up on you

....a different anon"
posted at 13:19:21 on June 26, 2014 by Anonymous


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