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By BelieveInGod
4/8/2014 12:54:40 AM
I can't tell you how helpful it is to write down your experiences and thoughts!

I posted here a couple years ago under the name WORKINGONUS. For some reason my password won't work anymore but nonetheless let me tell you that after battling with sexual addiction in the firm of pornography for well over 25 years I have finally found freedom. Here is my simple list of successful helps:

1. Confess to your Bishop and Spouse!
2. Confess everything! Everything.
3. Don't confess graphic details, they are not necessary but the truth of your depth of addiction is.
4. Seek couples or individual counseling!
5. If you don't like your counselor font give up! Find a new one if necessary!
6. Be honest.
7. Attend LDS addiction recovery class faithfully, and share!
8. Believe that God will take away your urges.
9. It will take time for the urges to subside.
10. Strength will be built.
11. If you screw up learn a lesson from it and regroup, don't give up!!
12. Keep a 24 hour rule with your spouse and bishop if you relapse. This is absolutely necessary.
13. Communicate with your spouse daily. If they want details and depth, they deserve it, remember this is about losing pride and building trust back.
14. Turn everything over to God and trust in Him! If separation or divorce comes continue to recover your life.
15. Do not tell too many people (family) about your addiction.
16. Seek psychiatric help if necessary. Take prescribed medicines to help you think rationally if necessary. Only when prescribed.
17. You can get past this!
18. You may have random inappropriate thoughts pop into your head. Don't beat yourself up over them, say "delete" in your head and move on to another thought.
19. Seek blessings often.
20. Continue to communicate with your spouse about how you are doing even when they do not ask. A simple, "just wanted you to know I am still clean." Will suffice.
21. Keep a small pocket calendar and mark each day of sobriety. Keep this where your spouse can see it but don't write what the markings represent in case it is found by someone else.

You can get through this and you will!!! My wife and I are still apart in many ways. We haven't held hands or kissed or even hugged for a couple years. That's okay. She is healing in her way and we are still together! Laughing again, enjoying each other's company again, learning to trust again!

You will get through this!


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"Nothing is beyond [Christ’s] redeeming reach or His encircling empathy. Therefore, we should not complain about our own life’s not being a rose garden when we remember who wore the crown of thorns! Having bled at every pore, how red His raiment must have been in Gethsemane, how crimson that cloak! No wonder, when Christ comes in power and glory, that He will come in reminding red attire, signifying not only the winepress of wrath, but also to bring to our remembrance how He suffered for each of us in Gethsemane and on Calvary!"

— Neal A. Maxwell

General Conference May 1987