Maybe this site should go away
By mint
9/21/2013 6:33:51 PM
I recently looked at some of the blogs. I see a lot of confusions and distrust. It's with reason. Some may know each other in the real world outside of this anonymous site, but other than that we have no idea who we're dealing with. How can we help each other if we can't trust each other. What if our writings here are intended to get help but leave us with bruises instead of healing. I feel that's how I left this site, worse off than when I came.

This whole controversy with Kick Its identity is a piece of the big issue of this site. We can't trust each other. I have no idea if he is who is or what his purpose is, but it is entirely possible he isn't. I talked to someone for a month who wasn't and it was like my whole world went upside down. You trust someone and wveyrhing they say is a lie, it doesn't help the struggles we go through.

I hope I don't offend anyone, but maybe this site should go away. Is it doing more harm than good. The veterans who have been here know better, but those of us who come here thinking we can trust anonymous people can and have been deceived. What is the huge benefit then? Does the risk outweigh the benefits. I am writing this to say the risks are too great. There are too many vulnerable youth and hurt-souls who put their trust out there.

That's all I have to say. Good luck to everyone with their struggles and bless those who are trying to help. Be aware of those who have ulterior motives .


"Decent points. But you don't need to "trust" anyone on this sight. In fact, I would suggest that you don't. That just goes for the internet in general. But to make a sweeping generality that nothing can be gained is kind of ridiculous. I would suggest that nothing can be gained if you are unwilling to be supported by those who genuinely want to support you. I don't know if you have ever come on here to ask for help. It seems to me that you have always wanted validation for your ideas. When you get on this site with that motive, you will most likely become disenchanted. It is similar to Kick it becoming increasingly upset that other people are not reacting to his ideas the way he thinks they should.
The ideas that produce sobriety, peace, and serenity are not ideas you need to trust us on. They are being taught in 12 Step fellowships all over the world. This site can be another tool of support...or it can be an instrument of contention. There is no stopping the occasional contentious subject. But you can always choose which one you are going to participate in."
posted at 19:01:00 on September 21, 2013 by Anonymous
You're so adorable    
"Dude, this site does go away (or it can). At least for me. Every time I log off. It's gone. Poof. The problem is never "out there" anyway. The good news is neither is the kingdom of God. It's within you. Let that one bake your noodle :)

That is a bummer you got mixed up with some pervert or wacko or whatever. But uh-h-h...aren't we all perverts and wacko's here? Lol, lesson learned I say. Kickit invited me to email him. I don't think i'm going to for the reasons you mention. I don't think it will help me. I'm comfortable consulting my priesthood leaders about unclean spirits and I know I understand the scriptures better than him *jest* Also if I've learned anything I know I certainly can't teach him anything either so, meh. No harm to anyone. The other thing is I think it's mainly about setting the record straight that he's actually a real dude and why he approaches us as such and honestly I don't care. Motivated by pride I did care for a minute lazy I guess. As I said before God told me it's not my concern. Though I'm not perfect in keeping it (the whole Kickit/unclean spirit hullabaloo) away from my concerns. So, my point is you just need to be more lazy man. Like me ;)

The fact that you're worse off now than any other time is kind of meaningless. In mind at least. It can be a kin to saying you started eating Campbell's Tomato Soup a lot and that was right around the time you quit going to church. So of course Campbell's Tomato Soup is the reason you quit going to church. Seriously though, you're 19? A lot of dudes get worse around your age. For lots of reasons. If you wan't to say every time you hop on this site you leave feeling depressed or angry for this specific reason or that specific reason that you can't surrender so you're over it (the site) than...I can get jiggy with that. Wiki Correlation does not imply causation to see what I mean.

For me, the site was instrumental in spurning the process of working through an affair I was having back in spring of 2010. To this day I sing the praises of a gal who went by Brighthope. As Moses hit the rock with his staff and the waters gushed out so she cracked my stony heart with her spirit and the softness of Spirit gushed out (if only for a second). I wish I knew what happened to her. I hope her husband is still doing swell. If he's not that's okay too 'cause she's got a better Groom anyway. And all that's not to mention my man Ruggaexpat and co.

Today the site is off and on benign to helpful for me. Sometimes it's an outlet. Sometimes it's a place to record where I'm at. Sometimes I'm just avoiding Facebook. Sometimes it's where I come to organize or clarify my thoughts on this or that subject pertaining to recovery or the church or psychology/neurology or some other school of thought. Sometimes it's where I come to be bummed out. Sometimes it's where I come when I want to go to a strip club. Sometimes it's a place I come to see where my peeps is at and rub shoulders with the weak and the down trodden or watch Beclean sling logic like Butch Cassidy slings guns. Sometimes I come here to just offer my version of encouragement and whatever compassion I think I can offer. Sometimes it's where I come to challenge stupid thinking or mentality :) When it's not helping the problem is with me. Again, the kingdom of God is within you. The kingdom of God is within you. Within you.

Later brother."
posted at 20:35:06 on September 21, 2013 by they_speak
"I've been going back and forth about taking a vacay from the site again. I do that from time to time because we all get too crazy here sometimes. It's ok. We all have our reasons for coming here and we all have our reasons for leaving. Mint, if it isn't working for you then fill your life with what does work. Speak is right about not trusting people on here. We are all addicts....what do we know!?! Don't trust us for Heaven's sake. Share and blog if it helps you. Take what you want and leave the rest. There is always room for another crazy here if you want to hang with us for a while, but don't let this site stress you out. (I say as I've been letting it stress me out lately....) Good luck and I'm sorry it's been rough here."
posted at 22:26:26 on September 21, 2013 by maddy
Stay Mint!    
"I am so glad you stayed Maddy, you are a lovely spirit!

Mint I miss talking with you I am sorry if I discouraged you or hurt your feelings this was not my intention. You have so many WONDERFUL attributes and much knowledge for a young man.

I remember you were the only one that stuck up for me and Kick it one time and that took a lot of courage.,especially on this site with our so many supporters.

So please stay! I know that Heavenly Fathers loves you so much and wants only great things for you!

God Bless!"
posted at 00:51:21 on September 22, 2013 by Aussie
We're all crazy here...    
"You're right to not want to trust people on the internet. It can be a dangerous place. Really, Good is the only One I feel okay about trusting, anyway. Any person can let you down.

And if you feel this site is an anger or other type of trigger for you ( sometimes it had been for me, anyways), feel free to take a break. It may be a healthy thing to do.

Yeah, Aussie, Mint stood up for me once, also. Guess that's one of the great things about our little brother, Mint.

posted at 09:32:18 on September 22, 2013 by Anonymous

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"By emulating the Master, who endured temptations but “gave no heed unto them,” we, too, can live in a world filled with temptations “such as [are] common to man”. Of course Jesus noticed the tremendous temptations that came to him, but He did not process and reprocess them. Instead, He rejected them promptly. If we entertain temptations, soon they begin entertaining us! Turning these unwanted lodgers away at the doorstep of the mind is one way of giving “no heed.” Besides, these would-be lodgers are actually barbarians who, if admitted, can be evicted only with great trauma."

— Neal A. Maxwell

General Conference May 1987