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Need some support...
By matt78
8/16/2013 11:28:12 PM
Looking for some encouraging words from the group. I have been clean since February but I feel very weak. I have been looking at pictures that will probably lead me down to fully naked pictures and then videos of people have sex and then mb. I am afraid it is going down that path. I have put a stop on it but I still feel the residual effects Any kind of support would be appreciated.

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What are you feeling?    
"Why do you think you are following this path, when you know you will regret it? Is it because you are bored? Go read a good book. Are you lonely? Go find someone to play a game. Are you stressed or angry? Go meditate. Are you hungry? Go eat something healthy. Are you tired? Go sleep!

It's not because you are wicked. You are not... That's why you're on this site looking for help. You are good.

So, what is it that's causing you to be off balance? What is your body yearning for that makes you feel like seeking a rush of adrenaline and other chemicals with porn and masturbation?

Face your challenge and feelings directly. What are they telling you? Don't run from them into porn.

But, if you choose to, that doesn't make you bad. It just won't do what you want it to do.

So, make a choice this time. And if you choose porn, so be it. But you don't have to. You can tell God exactly how you are feeling. Tell him you feel like looking at porn and masturbating. Tell him you don't know what to do about it, so you aren't going to do anything about it. You aren't going to try to stop feeling that way... You can't change your feelings. Ask him to please fight this battle for you and change your feelings while you go do something else, like read or sleep or eat.

You are a beloved child of God. He loves you. He'll fight for you, if you turn it over to him. Then, tryto get your life back in balance.

Good luck, we are praying for you, and we'll be here matter what you choose. So will he, so pray to him no matter what happens tonight... pray now. Then Pray in the morning. He will listen."
posted at 02:15:23 on August 17, 2013 by beclean
Got through it.    
"Thanks BECLEAN. I was able to get through the night without making the situation worse. I worked on a few projects and went to bed. Today I did some yardwork to clear my head."
posted at 19:20:11 on August 17, 2013 by matt78
Great!    
"I'm glad you choose something that served you better. Have you checked out curethecraving.com yet?"
posted at 19:30:31 on August 17, 2013 by beclean
intimacy    
"Something that helped me with looking at less devilish things that always, invariably, led to more devilish things was recognizing that, based on my understanding of his teachings and life, Christ doesn't really give a damn which law I was breaking. He didn't really give a damn if my bishop would still let me go to the temple. He didn't ultimately care (ultimately being an operative word here because he probably does care about all these things. But ultimately they don't matter at all) if I had kept things "clean enough" that I didn't need to mention it to my wife.

I realized in all this non-sense I was just like a Pharisee of old. Clinging to my idiotic and dead laws and ridiculous nuance. In short (because I'm writing this on my phone maybe ill add more later) I realized Christ didn't give the ashes of a rye straw if I could technically take the sacrament or not. He cared, in all too simple terms, about my intimacy with him. He cares about my heart. Recognizing that my heart was just as far from him as I strove to keep within the boundaries of perfectly stupid laws as I lusted after women in swim suites as it was when I was committing adultery, perhaps even further from him because at least in adultery I couldn't pretend to be righteous anymore, was a big help. Brought me to my knees. Recognizing, much to my surprise and chagrin, the nature of my Pharisutical ways often gave me pause in those moments of justifying little sin. Christ just wants a relationship. Just wants to hang out. Just wants to love me. Am I being a real friend? Or a fake friend? Right now. In this moment."
posted at 13:03:26 on August 18, 2013 by they_speak
Thanks!    
"Thank you everyone for your encouragement. I don't think we tell each other anything new but we need to hear it from others from time to time to get our head back in the game.

Yes, I am familiar with cure the craving program. I think without out it I would have succumbed mainly because I would not be aware of the processes I was going through and I needed to have the strength to cut off the stimuli. And yes, I was in the B.S. box that Tony puts it."
posted at 15:54:20 on August 19, 2013 by matt78


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