4th Step Inventory
By brady
7/11/2013 2:56:48 PM
So, I am going to start doing my fourth step today. I did this step when I was 18 before my mission. The step was helpful in the fact that it helped me to get a lot of my transgressions on paper and confess them to my bishop. The problem is that I am not home from my mission and I'm feeling that the Lord wants me to do this step again. He wants me to do it on a more principle based level which is "seeing myself, others, and the Lord through Heavens eyes in truth and honesty". This has been extremely hard for me because there are a lot of things that I have already confessed to the bishop and I'm not sure if I should go back to those things that I have already confessed. Part of me says that is the past and that I don't need to. The other part of me says that though I confessed the sins, they could be a valuable way to understand my character weaknesses. I'm afraid that through doing this things are going to come up that it will trigger me into going back. My heart is torn in doing this but I for some reason feel that it needs to be done. Has anyone experienced any similar feelings in doing this step.

Also I just don't even know how or where to start. Are there sample inventory's? Thanks everyone.

PS I am recovering from S-xual addiciton but I would like the thoughts of the general board.


A few more facts    
"I am teaching at the MTC now and also in the Elders Quorum in my YSA ward. I feel like I should have done this step the right way a long time ago and sometimes I don't feel like I'm worthy to be in these positions, even though my leaders have said that I am."
posted at 14:59:37 on July 11, 2013 by brady
"really? you're teaching at the mtc! that's is so great Brady! that makes me feel like there is hope for me after all. I would love to get some more advice from you brady. if you could leave a comment on my blog I would love to hear about your success."
posted at 14:00:27 on October 11, 2013 by rogermerril
"really? you're teaching at the mtc! that's is so great Brady! that makes me feel like there is hope for me after all. I would love to get some more advice from you brady. if you could leave a comment on my blog I would love to hear about your success."
posted at 14:01:34 on October 11, 2013 by rogermerril
let it go    
"Doing your 4th step is a prayerful thing. It took me months to complete mine. Ask the Lord to show you what you need to confess, and let Him guide you. Remember also to put all that you consider character strengths on the list too.

You do not need to re confess past transgressions. It is advisable to get a sponsor in the program and work with him. If there are unrepentant sins or you have questions as to what needs to be confessed, I would ask your Bishop. Generally, when working the 12 step program, it is best to do the steps including your inventory list with someone you connect with who is experienced in the program. Some people use their Bishop as a sponsor and if that works well for you, that's great. Remember that he will have great spiritual counsel, and serves as your Judge in Israel. However, unless your Bishop has worked his own 12 step program, he many not have the tools and experience necessary to lead a you through the steps. Having the mantle of the Bishop does not make him experienced in addiction recovery, anymore than it would make him a professional therapist. The roll of a sponsor is to act as a guide for you. Because he has experienced sobriety and been through the program ( sometimes many times), he knows what will help you succeed and knows what to say and do when you are struggling. He is the person you check in with daily. In. Your sponsor is also your mentor. This mentor is central to the life of the 12 step program. Helping you, also helps him. When you have worked the program and are experiencing your own recovery, you in turn will help someone who is now where you once were...and so on, etc. You never graduate or outgrow the 12 step program. Otherwise, who will be there to greet those who are seeking sobriety and recovery? When it is no longer about ourselves is when we are doing our best work. I see it as God's perfect plan to keep us connected by lifting one another to a better place.

Please forgive me as I share one more illustration... I have a dear friend who is a paraplegic. Part of his life's work is spent going to hospitals to visit with people who have learned that they no longer have use of their legs. He helps them learn new skills in dealing with their "new normal". He is not paid to do this work. but has endured what they are only beginning to experience. He shares hope, resources, love, and companionship. He serves as a mentor and guess what?, when he was in the hospital finding out for the first time that he would never walk again, a man in a wheelchair came to him and taught him how to move forward. Pretty cool huh?

If you are cleared to work in the MTC, let go of the guilt and shame. You do not need to suffer for your sins. The Savior already did that for you. Confess, repent, then let it go. I think it is a tool of the adversary to keep us in shame and guilt after we have already repented. You do not need to be perfect. In fact, you cannot make yourself perfect. Jesus Christ is doing that for you every time you turn your heart towards Him.

Congratulations on completing a mission for the Lord and for continuing to serve him in the MTC. It sounds like you put your whole heart into your service and are a great mentor for those you whom you serve there. It looks like the Lord and His devoted leaders trust you to do what is needed to lead new missionaries into their next two years!!!

What a fantastic example you are by choosing to continue your service by volunteering. Way to go Elder, you rock!!!"
posted at 16:14:51 on October 11, 2013 by angelmom

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