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Check this out!
By stayingclean
3/20/2013 11:48:30 AM
We all do it. We all "check" people out? I know I do. Though lately, I have made an effort to stop checking people out. Its tough. I almost have to play a mind game with myself. Just look away and concentrate on something else. The feeling will pass, as it always does, and I move on with my life. When I do that I feel better. When I don't I feel a little weaker. I don't beat myself up over it usually because I forget the incident altogether. I even forget the person or what they look like. Then what is the point?

We all have our preferences, face, body type, age. It doesn't matter. And on some level could we honestly ask ourselves: Does it matter? Or is it harmless? We are not looking at prn. After all these people are wearing clothes. While the act of looking at others harmlessly even admiringly does not lead directly to porn it does weaken our spirit. It also weakens our ability to maintain self-control when we do reach that critical moment when we ask ourselves whether or not we should click that mouse button that will lead us down that slippery slope.

Conversely, when we "look away" and make a concerted effort to support our intentions to be clean with action, that very action may in fact strengthen our will power to resist future moments of impulses.

Maybe this is what Elder Holland said that we should stop trimming the branches of our addiction and start hacking at the roots.

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And I have to offer a second opinion to this, too    
"I have nothing against Kick_It, so I feel bad for speaking up again, but my opinion once again differs.

When I'm too hard on myself, hyper aware of all my thoughts, constantly telling myself to "stop thinking about that!", and constantly making myself feel guilty for my actions, I get worse. Much worse. What starts as a harmless itch on my arm gets scratched and scratched until it turns into a bloody mess.

Temptations come. Thoughts come. These are not my fault. Even Jesus was tempted, and no one else is perfect, so we will also be tempted, and we will give in some times. That's called life.

When a sexy thought crosses my mind, I move on to something else as quickly as possible (I always have a list of important things to be working on), but I don't make myself feel bad about the thought. Considering my past, I should expect that thoughts and temptations like that will come once in a while, as Satan tries to lure me back onto his road. It's not my fault, and I don't need to feel guilty that a thought popped into my head.

If I let a thought stay a little longer than I probably should, then I start to worry, and that can cause things to get worse. So, I say a quick prayer and tell Heavenly Father that I just had a thought, and I'm not sure how to make it go away...so can he please make it go away for me. I tell him I'm not really going to fight the thought right now, I'm just going to move on and forget about it, but I won't fight it. I ask Him to fight it for me.

And I don't punish myself for small slip ups like that. (Which now happen VERY rarely, I can't even remember the last time.) I just move on and trust God to take care of it.

That's what works for me."
posted at 00:44:51 on March 21, 2013 by BeClean


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