By g1rlie
1/16/2013 9:17:57 AM
Instead of doing what I feel I've been wanting to do, I'm going to bring it to light and surrender it.

Still struggling with Greg, my former affair partner. Deactivated my email address Yet Again. Been wanting to give him my new phone number, but choosing not to. Been wanting to see him again, but surrendering my right to do so.

This would sure be a lot easier if he didn't still seem to want to still see me. :/

Ideas for what to DO so I don't give Greg this power over me:

* Write letters to husband saying how much I love him and how much I am grateful for him.

*Think of 10 great things about my husband every day.

*Do something nice for my hubs every day.

*Pray to God for Greg and ask for Greg all of the things I'd ask for myself. Ask God to give me whatever it is I am looking for in Greg that I am lacking.


"Are you open with your husband about all the feelings you still have for Greg? If so how does he handle that?

The reason I ask is because I have attempted to be very forth coming with my spouse about the feelings that still exist about my affair partner. It didn't not go ever very well. So know I find myself just keeping feelings and thoughts to myself. Which I know inst healthy. Thanks for all your posts!"
posted at 19:39:51 on January 16, 2013 by Anonymous
better work you recover plan    
"work your recovery plan girlie...."
posted at 20:03:54 on January 16, 2013 by skyteamst90
I will add    
"Go out and find someone to serve and love, who can do nothing for you in return, I find beauty in this and I pray you will too.

You are truly an awesome woman of honesty and love, and I bet someone unconditionaly needs what you have to offer.

Keep up the good surrender, you are doing just fine :)

Hugs to out girlie!"
posted at 00:49:19 on January 17, 2013 by angelmom
"@Anon-No way:) Somehow, I don't feel that I should tell my hubs account my feelings for Greg. I figure those feelings will go away eventually.

@Skyteam-Yep:) Got ahold of my sponsor.

@Angelmom-Thanks:). Yeah, signed up to volunteer with the SA prison outreach. Getting enough sexual sobriety to be able to do this. Hopefully, that works oort okay."
posted at 02:34:37 on January 17, 2013 by G1rlie

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"By emulating the Master, who endured temptations but “gave no heed unto them,” we, too, can live in a world filled with temptations “such as [are] common to man”. Of course Jesus noticed the tremendous temptations that came to him, but He did not process and reprocess them. Instead, He rejected them promptly. If we entertain temptations, soon they begin entertaining us! Turning these unwanted lodgers away at the doorstep of the mind is one way of giving “no heed.” Besides, these would-be lodgers are actually barbarians who, if admitted, can be evicted only with great trauma."

— Neal A. Maxwell

General Conference May 1987