You are so...Nothing
By beclean
1/10/2013 9:50:34 PM
You know, I suddenly wonder how I would have been different if, instead of telling me constantly what a good, smart, wonderful, intelligent, perfect, handsome, amazing kid I was my parents had instead told me, "I can tell you worked hard on that." "I can see you gave your best effort." "I can see you struggled, but overcame." "You had some challenges, but you came to us, and we're proud of you."

Could they have made it blatantly obvious that they didn't expect me to be perfect? Could they have told me I WILL have problems, lots of them? (Did they tell me that, and I didn't listen?)

Could they have let me know in advance that I am SO NOTHING, without God?

Maybe they tried, but I never got the message. And when I started to screw up, and when I started to struggle, I figured something was terribly wrong. I was supposed to be perfect. So, then I tried to cover up my struggles and errors. I didn't want anyone to know. That just made my problems worse, because the direct consequence of covering our sins is that we are left ALONE (to kick against the pricks). What I needed was HELP and the Spirit! And help comes only by opening up to others and the Spirit comes only when we are honest about our problems.

Would I have been different if I could have UNDERSTOOD that I didn't have to be perfect--that I didn't have to be a child prodigy or a prophet-in-embryo? Would I have relied more on the Lord, if I had known that I was NOTHING?

I don't know. Can this thought help my kids? If so, how?



"Thanks for this one! You always bring up good topics. This one hit home to me. I'm trying really hard to help my kids not have the pain we do. My oldest son was exposed to soft porn awhile back. He told me about it. He had a look on his face that was really concerned. I asked him if it made him curious? He said shyly yes. I told him that makes him normal...but we need to walk away from those things and not let it linger with us. I told him telling me was great...tell someone. The problems come when we hide. I like what you said about covering up keeps us alone. I've really been working on keeping the door of communication open with our kids so they aren't alone in their trials. It's hard to be a parent!!!!!!"
posted at 16:39:42 on January 11, 2013 by Summer
"Update. Please. How are you? You're still one a my fav's :)"
posted at 17:58:35 on January 11, 2013 by they_speak
yes, please    
"Just agreeing with speak"
posted at 21:04:49 on January 11, 2013 by beclean
Hey dudes...    
"Speak and beclean...thanks for asking bout me : ) I'll get an update here soon."
posted at 07:22:10 on January 15, 2013 by Summer
Cool Realization    
"It is cool to know that you are hopeless without God. That is why I believe that it is instrumental in recovery that you join some sort of religon to have hope that a higher being is helping."
posted at 17:01:17 on January 16, 2013 by Liberation

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"Are you battling a demon of addiction—tobacco or drugs, or the pernicious contemporary plague of ography? Whatever other steps you may need to take to resolve these concerns, come first to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Trust in heaven’s promises. In that regard Alma's testimony is my testimony: "I do know," he says, "that whosoever shall put their trust in God shall be supported in their trials, and their troubles, and their afflictions."

— Jeffrey R. Holland

General Conference, April 2006