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Relationships and Lust
By anon16
1/4/2013 8:14:46 PM
How do you eal with this? I'm 17. I've had a problem with mb for almost 5 years and media for 7. I have a boyfriend, we've been going out for 2 1/2 months. First boyfriend and I've been struggling. The thing is, I kissed him the first time before break A few weeks ago. The day I left, things got a little heated. It fueled a 5 day binge. Some media but mostly mb.

How do I deal with this? How can I not treat him like an object? I feel like I'll wreck the relationship with my addiction. How do I not?

Comments:

If it feels good......do it.    
"You started about the same age I did. Good for you. Treating the 'boy' as an object? Well, most boys probably feel the same way about girls. Discovering your sexuality is a two way street. Just be careful, those little ones from the boy are very dangerous at your age. If you attempt intercourse, make sure he has a condom, or get yourself on the pill asap. Enjoy it all while you are still young. Pretty soon, all those wonderful love juices your 17 year old body is making will dry up and you will be using handfuls of astro-lube. Don't be too disappointed if he comes too fast the first couple of times. Just kiss him...tell him it's o.k., and give him a little advise. The same muscle a boy can use to stop his "P" is the same one he can use to keep from coming. Just relax. If you really want to rock his world, just google the term "Kegel Exercises," learn how to do them. You will rock his world.

I read in these forums how women can be married to men that are addicted to gay/faggot porn. If they (the women) were doing a little more in bed (besides just laying there), like foreplay, oral and a little masturbation (while sucking on a guys nipples they will be putty in your hands), these men would not be running home to look at any porn. Anal, well, that is up to you. Just be sure to use plenty of lube (K-Y jelly). I also suggest an enema first, it will make your first time a lot better."
posted at 21:17:08 on January 4, 2013 by Anonymous
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posted at 21:24:41 on January 4, 2013 by they_speak
What did I tell you troll?    
"...you're fired"
posted at 21:25:12 on January 4, 2013 by they_speak
What did I just read?    
"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,
7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
(New Testament | 2 Timothy 3:1–7?)?"
posted at 22:27:47 on January 4, 2013 by Anonymous
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"7 Yea, and there shall be many which shall say: Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die; and it shall be well with us.
8 And there shall also be many which shall say: Eat, drink, and be merry; nevertheless, fear God—he will justify in committing a little sin; yea, lie a little, take the advantage of one because of his words, dig a pit for thy neighbor; there is no harm in this; and do all these things, for tomorrow we die; and if it so be that we are guilty, God will beat us with a few stripes, and at last we shall be saved in the kingdom of God.
9 Yea, and there shall be many which shall teach after this manner, false and vain and foolish doctrines, and shall be puffed up in their hearts, and shall seek deep to hide their counsels from the Lord; and their works shall be in the dark.
10 And the blood of the saints shall cry from the ground against them.
11 Yea, they have all gone out of the way; they have become corrupted.
(Book of Mormon | 2 Nephi 28:7–11?)?"
posted at 22:31:07 on January 4, 2013 by Anonymous
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"7 Yea, and there shall be many which shall say: Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die; and it shall be well with us.
8 And there shall also be many which shall say: Eat, drink, and be merry; nevertheless, fear God—he will justify in committing a little sin; yea, lie a little, take the advantage of one because of his words, dig a pit for thy neighbor; there is no harm in this; and do all these things, for tomorrow we die; and if it so be that we are guilty, God will beat us with a few stripes, and at last we shall be saved in the kingdom of God.
9 Yea, and there shall be many which shall teach after this manner, false and vain and foolish doctrines, and shall be puffed up in their hearts, and shall seek deep to hide their counsels from the Lord; and their works shall be in the dark.
10 And the blood of the saints shall cry from the ground against them.
11 Yea, they have all gone out of the way; they have become corrupted.
(Book of Mormon | 2 Nephi 28:7–11?)?"
posted at 22:32:59 on January 4, 2013 by Anonymous
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"7 Yea, and there shall be many which shall say: Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die; and it shall be well with us.
8 And there shall also be many which shall say: Eat, drink, and be merry; nevertheless, fear God—he will justify in committing a little sin; yea, lie a little, take the advantage of one because of his words, dig a pit for thy neighbor; there is no harm in this; and do all these things, for tomorrow we die; and if it so be that we are guilty, God will beat us with a few stripes, and at last we shall be saved in the kingdom of God.
9 Yea, and there shall be many which shall teach after this manner, false and vain and foolish doctrines, and shall be puffed up in their hearts, and shall seek deep to hide their counsels from the Lord; and their works shall be in the dark.
10 And the blood of the saints shall cry from the ground against them.
11 Yea, they have all gone out of the way; they have become corrupted.
(Book of Mormon | 2 Nephi 28:7–11?)?"
posted at 22:33:10 on January 4, 2013 by Anonymous
Pray    
"Keeps following the 12 step program. Pray that God will give you the wisdom to not give in to lust. Also pray to be delivered from temptation."
posted at 00:10:06 on January 6, 2013 by Anonymous
Heavenly Father's plan    
"As you mature, your will be less driven by hormones and your mb issue should reside. Please think positively. Make sure that you do not do it so much that it gets in the way of your real life, because that's a more serious problem. When you do it, DO NOT FEEL TOO GUILTY. Your feelings of guilt will cause shame, and you will end up mb even more out of shame. It is excessive guilt that makes a habit into an addiction.
Also, as a silver lining, there are many LDS women who grow up incredible, debilitating shame of sex. That's our culture for better or worse. It is common for that shame to really decrease sexual function and even make climax impossible. It is something my husband and I struggle with. Be careful, but the silver lining is you already know more about your body than I do, and that will be important for your marriage. Stay strong!"
posted at 14:31:48 on January 26, 2013 by Anonymous
Wow!    
"I don't know if the anonymous above this post is naive or completely ahead of her time. There may be something to what you're saying, but I don't agree that it is "guilt" that leads to addiction."
posted at 17:46:49 on January 26, 2013 by Anonymous
How mature do you have to be?    
"I am a woman in my thirties and am extremely, um, triggery. It stems to have gotten worse over the years instead of better."
posted at 02:08:54 on January 27, 2013 by Anonymous


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