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2 big things-PLEASE HELP
By andrewb
12/2/2012 9:27:06 PM
Hey all,

I have two things that I would like some feedback on, any comments are greatly appreciated.

1. I have a masturbation/porn addiction but it always come down my lust for it, I am sometimes never physically able to hold in the compliance to the temptation, and I am sick of it. I visited my bishop once already but I am afraid what he will tell me I have already tried... This has been going on for basically my whole childhood.

2. I noticed that my father sometimes looks at women inappropriately. I know for sure he does, so don't think it's just an assumption. I am not sure if he looks at porn also but he is a faithful member as far as I am concerned. High priest, used-to-be bishop. Should I be worried? If I have a problem with an addiction, God acts in natural ways which according to my understanding means it came from somewhere in my genetics.

Any comments appreciated, thanks guys...

Comments:

Okay    
"Overcoming discouragement is part of the test. Many of us have tried and failed. I have personally needed to visit my bishop multiple times because I kept failing. Every time, I'd tell myself that I will not do it again, then I did.

But I found that when we diligently seek God, He really can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. How can we seek Him? By going to our meetings, reading our scriptures, by serving others (important!). Maybe you can go to an addiction recovery meeting?

Regardless of our predispositions, God's commandments are the same for all of His children and God did not send you here to fail. Keep working at overcoming this and you will. Your nature will be changed."
posted at 22:45:41 on December 2, 2012 by Anonymous
Okay    
"Overcoming discouragement is part of the test. Many of us have tried and failed. I have personally needed to visit my bishop multiple times because I kept failing. Every time, I'd tell myself that I will not do it again, then I did.

But I found that when we diligently seek God, He really can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. How can we seek Him? By going to our meetings, reading our scriptures, by serving others (important!). Maybe you can go to an addiction recovery meeting?

Regardless of our predispositions, God's commandments are the same for all of His children and God did not send you here to fail. Keep working at overcoming this and you will. Your nature will be changed."
posted at 22:45:49 on December 2, 2012 by Anonymous
Dad's problem    
"It seems like you should know your dad well enough to make the determination that he has lust in his heart. But this is nothing that is not common to the lot of all man. But lust is just as genetic as any of our sins. And it may not just be from your dad that you inherited it,

"A person who chooses to be influenced by the passions, desires, appetites, and senses of the flesh rather than by the promptings of the Holy Spirit. Such a person can comprehend physical things but not spiritual things. All people are carnal, or mortal, because of the fall of Adam and Eve. Each person must be born again through the atonement of Jesus Christ to cease being a natural man."

Regardless of where you inherited your lust from it is now yours. And don't get too discouraged. I have been battling this thing on my own for 14 years. I have finally realized that I will never overcome it on my own, no matter what I do, no matter how hard I try. The only way I can get over this thing is through professional help, a 12 step community and a sponsor. And with this realization I've never felt more stable.

Good luck. Look the the right source and practice rigid honesty."
posted at 06:39:46 on December 4, 2012 by SimonLeper


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"I have come to know that thoughts, like water, will stay on course if we make a place for them to go. Otherwise, our thoughts follow the course of least resistance, always seeking the lower levels. Probably the greatest challenge and the most difficult thing you will face in mortal life is to learn to control your thoughts. In the Bible it says, as a man ‘thinketh in his heart, so is he’ (Prov. 23:7). One who can control his thoughts has conquered himself. As you learn to control your thoughts, you can overcome habits, even degrading personal habits. You can gain courage, conquer fear, and have a happy life. "

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