sexual dysfunction because of using porn?
By asdfjkl1234
9/7/2012 3:48:21 PM
I read an article today about a new problem called porn-induced sexual dysfunction. Its an interesting read. I could totally see how this is becoming a problem. Just sharing for anyone who cares. Even for this reason alone should be enough of a reason for me to stop indulging in pn and mb. Its gonna make me impotent one day. That'd suck. Here's the link...


It's a real thing....    
"In the depths of my daily acting out with porn and mb, this became my reality. I tried using one of the medications that advertised for it, and what a nightmare that turned out to be. As soon as I quit using, everything was different. I blogged about it about 18 months ago. It's semi-explicit in that I describe exactly how it all works."
posted at 16:22:13 on September 7, 2012 by chefdalet
"No wonder my husband can't have sex with me. Sucks."
posted at 15:13:13 on September 8, 2012 by Anonymous
Is this why my husband doesn't want to have sex?    
"Oh, man. He used to like to have sex with me. I guess that makes sense. Boo :( Husband is an in the closet addict. SO FRUSTRATING!!!!!"
posted at 15:15:13 on September 8, 2012 by g1rlie
i dont know...    
"G1rlie.......I always WANTED to...It just became impossible."
posted at 20:52:19 on September 8, 2012 by chefdalet
Well, Chefdalet    
"Thank you for the insight. It is helpful and I feel a little more understanding of things. Hopefully, I will have more patience because I, myself, am an extremely imperfect human being."
posted at 13:28:43 on September 9, 2012 by g1rlie
Aren't We All!!    
"I sure wish more of our guys understood this. For me, just wanting to have a normal sex life was motivation enough (nearly) to talk to my wife about my addiction. It was the harder road initially, but things now are better than I ever could have imagined......iin every way!"
posted at 08:17:12 on September 10, 2012 by chefdalet
Emotional-Sexual Dysfunction    
"After two years of solid recovery, I would have hoped our (my wife and mine's) sex life would have found some sort of "normal."

Unfortunately, after two years of recovery, I have a hard time initiating sex because I never know if its the real me, or my inner addict trying to find a release. On the other hand, my wife never initiates because... who really knows why. She says she wants to, but never does. I'm fairly certain I've broken her. Add to that, if by some rare twist of circumstances and fate we do get together, it makes the next few days harder on me in terms of addiction and temptations.

The summary and result of all this, my wife and I really have no sex life.

The take away is that the prophets have been right all along. Pornography will destroy your ability to have a normal, healthy relationship with your wife. It has only been two years, and I still hope for improvement, but its not guaranteed. Hope is fading, and it is my fault."
posted at 13:00:40 on September 10, 2012 by Anonymous
Similar circumstances...    
"I can't say that I (we) don't struggle with the same issues....It certainly has been a long journey. The realization we both had a few weeks back is that there really never was a "normal" in our marriage, since I came into it with these problems. The challenge has been to create a "New Normal"....a place where neither of us has been. I'm sure your wife still has some trust and fear issues that she will have to conquer. Trying to get to the point where both of you can buy into the fact that sex is important to your marriage is the key. There are plenty of good marriage blogs and even some great books like Laura Brotherson's, "And they were not ashamed". Our addictions have done a great job reinforcing that sex is together to get it back into a god ordained and god-modeled marriage activity. Talk, talk, talk.

Hopefully we can get some of the sisters to respond here. I'm not the expert. I just know what works for us, and we still have work to do....3 years later! Patience Obi-Wan. It took me 35 years to get into this addiction. I guess I shouldn't expect to get out of it overnight. Don't rule out couple's therapy...If you can find somebody you like, it would be worth the expense."
posted at 14:02:58 on September 10, 2012 by chefdalet

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