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Lust and Celebecy
By sobermind
9/1/2012 11:16:13 PM
I don't even know if I am spelling this word right: Celebecy.... just checked it is actually celibacy. I am pondering a few words today. In my research I realize abstaing from sexual activity even while married is more appropriately called continence.

The reason this is important is that I don't have a good handle on lust or sex in my adult life. I have looked at porn. I have mb I have lusted. I am done if the Lord be willing I am doing the work.

I think it is important to know what I am doing this for. I have noticed that the humbling experience of falling again has caused me to be more sensitive and loving or at least aware of what I was falling into.

I am still seeking answers, my current pondering has led me to a place where I will work on habits of lust I have developed. I will abstain from sexual acts... with one exception and I will clean my mind up with discipline and personal growth.

The only exception I am making is only the most pure and conservative encounters with my wife. The ones we both have engaged in mutually free of guilt and coersion. This will be a struggle one day at a time as my wife has health issues that have caused a forced abstaining for pretty lengthy periods.

I will sublimate my energy into personal growth and sensitivity. I am going to also study my wife as intently as when we were first together.

This is what I have so far. Again daily writing on this valuable site will be huge for my help... This is a pain to do, and a pain not to do.

Sobermind with Jesus

Comments:

You are on the right path    
"Get the SA white book as it does not water down what you need for healing and sobriety. I hate to say this, but in my opinion the LDS recovery material is missing some important information when it comes to what is sobriety and what is not. The SA white book is a the Bible of overcoming SA, and explains lust very well.

The Church is true and having a recovery program in the Church is better than not having one at all. I think we have more willing to go and try because we do put the LDS stamp of approval on it, and that is a good thing in the long run.

The humility you show, if continued will one day be a big blessing for your family. it is not something you will understand until many years down the road of recovery, but it is very powerful and will assist in bringing many to Christ and his saving ordinances.

Stay the course, it is worth it."
posted at 00:56:27 on September 2, 2012 by Anonymous


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"I have come to know that thoughts, like water, will stay on course if we make a place for them to go. Otherwise, our thoughts follow the course of least resistance, always seeking the lower levels. Probably the greatest challenge and the most difficult thing you will face in mortal life is to learn to control your thoughts. In the Bible it says, as a man ‘thinketh in his heart, so is he’ (Prov. 23:7). One who can control his thoughts has conquered himself. As you learn to control your thoughts, you can overcome habits, even degrading personal habits. You can gain courage, conquer fear, and have a happy life. "

— Boyd K. Packer

BYU, Speeches of the Year, 26 Sept. 1967