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By churchgirl
8/23/2012 6:53:32 PM
I HAVENT DONE ANYTHING SEXUAL IN ABOUT 3 YEARS AND HAVE FULLY REPENTED SINCE APRIL 15 2012
BUT I HAVE AWFUL THOUGHTS ABOUT WANTING TO HAVE SEX AGAIN, HOW DO I GET RID OF THESE AWFUL THOUGHTS OF DOING SOMETHING SEXUAL?? IM SO TIRED OF THIS :(

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pray...sit still    
"calm.ur mind or try to distract it...
- skyteamst90"
posted at 19:10:46 on August 23, 2012 by Anonymous
Please don't let yourself go back    
"This is where you need a sponsor, someone you can confide in to help you over the bumps in your recovery. The ideal person would be someone of your own gender who is in recovery from sexual sin and has been in recovery for several years, and someone you can trust to keep your information confidential, someone you can call days or evenings, someone who cares.

You also need a therapist to help you get to the roots of your compulsions and addictions. If I recall correctly, you have spoken with your Bishop about your situation. Please contact him ASAP (right now) and see if he can arrange something for you.

When you pray, be honest with Heavenly Father and let him know of your cravings, admit them openly, and pray for relief from temptation, and to have the Power of the Savior's Atoning Sacrifice intervene and take away the desire to do evil. Read Mosiah 5:2 and other scriptures in the Book of Mormon. I've been so honest with Heavenly Father that I've told him during my prayer that "we both know what I'm going to do [MB in my case] as soon as I finish this prayer", and that I really didn't even have the desire to quit, but I prayed that I would like to gain the desire to have the desire to quit. That might seem complicated, but think about it for a minute. And many, many times, I would finish the prayer, distraught and thinking that I was going to act out, and I would get prepared to, and then, for some reason, I wouldn't, and I didn't even want to. This worked hundreds of times over a period of two years, and continues to work for me most of the time. Not every time, but 95% of the time or more.

There's a reason that you're craving sex, and it's not just that we're all sexual creatures instilled with this Divine gift, but the out-of-control aspect of it is your attempt at self comfort and self medication. There is either some profound void in your life, or some profound agony, or both, that need attention, and we look for immediate relief, and we addicts do that through sex, or drugs, or alcohol, or gambling, or whatever. That's how we become addicts. We do it to relieve tension or anxiety or pain.

Most of us addicts suffer from low self esteem, which usually comes from abuse, neglect, or other situations beyond our control. I have PTSD, and I suffer from depression, etc., from time to time.

But four months of sobriety is wonderful, it's excellent, and I think that you're standing on the threshold of greatness, you just need to keep going in a positive direction.

You're in my fervent prayers."
posted at 21:38:41 on August 23, 2012 by dog
I 2nd Dog    
"I agree with and 2nd everything Dog just said. Having a sponsor is so important. I just sat in my car for 2 hours with one ofmy sponsee's after group tonight just talking. It's so hard to see through the clouds of darkness that the adversary engulfs us in. It's important to open up to someone who has good recovery, isn't emotionally involved and who has your recovery as their best interest. There are womens PASG groups out there now. I'm not sure what area you are in but you can now search for groups by zip code on the new arp.lds.org website. Maybe there is a group in your area.

I still often struggle with my thoughts. I blogged about it on my personal blog, You are welcome to read about it here..

http://www.bythelightofgrace.com/2012/07/battling-thoughts.html />
Keep your chin up!

Love ya"
Uggh    
"I hate it when it links funny! Here is the link to my blog post on Battling Thoughts...

http://www.bythelightofgrace.com/2012/07/battling-thoughts.html"
posted at 01:15:34 on August 24, 2012 by siouxsie
What doesn't work for me...    
"Is thinking about Not thinking about sex. That just compounds the problem and makes me think about sex even more. Ak!"
posted at 08:52:24 on August 24, 2012 by Anonymous
They used to teach us to sing hyms.....    
"Then one day I caught myself having bad thoughts when the hymn I used was played....My thoughts are that we are sexual beings. If it were possible to control our thought-life 100% of the time, we'd be with Enoch. The trick in my mind is being able to create a diversion and recognizing your surroundings. I float off into fantasy when i am bored, stressed, etc. Start blogging, working out, cooking...anything to get your mind re-focused. Read Siouxsie's Blog for crying out loud!!
DT"
posted at 11:30:13 on August 25, 2012 by chefdalet


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