This site needs to be redone and refocused, it's not effective
By moronidenovo
8/6/2012 4:18:39 AM
I'm not sure it's as effective as I believed it to be. What is this place? What is it's purpose? Why do we write here?

'Healing through writing' Is this supposed to be an online journal so we can vent with an audience. Or is it meant for us to write our deep thoughts to be analyzed and dissected by our fellow addicts. What purpose does that serve. If we write something, are we really looking for help and advice. OR are we looking for pity and comfort so we feel better about ourselves.

i don't know anymore, I'm not sure if i like it. People seem to run out of this site or fade away. What good is this place if when the people are torn down or enlightened with truth, while the rest of us are left to wonder what happened to the person.

Am I wrong or are you guys happy with this place. After the last few blogs, I can't help but feel this site is losing it's purpose and special place in my heart.

How do you guys feel?


Take what works for you and leave the rest..    
"Just like a 12 step meeting. I use the site for various things..

Sometimes I like to get feedback.
sometimes I don't like the feedback I get.
sometimes I want to share what works for me.
Sometimes I want advice
sometimes I just want a shoulder to cry on.
Sometimes I just want to complain and want someone to validate me.
It just depends.

Sometimes I think the threads get too personal and attacking or telling people what they "should or ought to do". but overall, I like the site. I like the feedback I have received over the last 18 months.

It hurts to see people fall off the wagon but I find that useful too because I use that as keep me scared straight since I'm only a few wrong choices and justifications to being back in my addiction.

my 2 cents"
posted at 12:11:19 on August 6, 2012 by hurtallover
"I actually find purpose here. I have a lot of recovery under my belt, I'm a sponsor and I'm a facilitator of my PASG group. I feel intense gratitude for what I have been given; for the healing the Savior has given me. I would feel quite selfish if I kept all that healing to myself. So I come here and hope to shine a bit of light for people. I dunno if I accomplish it much, but that's what I strive for.

posted at 12:20:58 on August 6, 2012 by siouxsie
"Yeah, sometimes people can really be cruel here. It is very inappropriate. Be kund, for everyone is fighting a hard battle"
posted at 15:15:31 on August 6, 2012 by Anonymous
The way I see it....    
"In my recovery, I've had to find what works for me. The reason we don't allow cross-talk in group is that recovery is not a "one-size-fits-all" process. What's great about this board is that it is free flowing. Sometimes people offer advice. Doesn't mean I have to listen. I see this place just like sharing time in group....share your successes, talk about what works for you..keep it positive. If all you want to do is write, start your own blog. It's really quite easy. I have one and I know Souixsie has one also. There are plenty of places that I can go to if I'm looking for conference talks, recovery resources, uplifting thoughts, etc. If someone doesn't like this place, surely they will find another. Heck, I have no idea who runs this web site, but i like it. For most of us, recovery didn't take off until we realized we were not alone. This place validates me. I'm with HurtAll Over!"
posted at 17:05:06 on August 6, 2012 by chefdalet
"Honestly, I don't think anyone runs this site. It was created and kinda just left alone. I would love to improve it, I have a lot of ideas swirling in my head on how to improve communication on this site but it seems like the creator is content.

@HurtAllOver ya I get some people just want it for different purposes, but how do we know what the person wants. How am I to know you really only want a shoulder to cry on, and I instead try give you advice and it offends you. It seems like a lot of this happens. We spend our time trying to help but the person never really wanted any, so we are left to wonder why we even tried. Of course we will probably always try but it is discouraging.

@siquisie Well I'm glad we have you here. But I do advise you to be careful. Sometimes we can't see with your eyes because we haven't reached that point yet, we are only on part of the path you have already taken. So we may not see what you see, and therefore understand.

@Anon ya. Feel bad for girlie. Although I agreed with most of the comments back there, I don't think people should've ganged up on her. I think people on this site have a knack for doing that.

@Chef well sure the obvious answer is go somewhere else. But this site is different. I think it's special, it has its veterans who have been here forever. But I think it can be more."
posted at 03:07:55 on August 7, 2012 by moronidenovo

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