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For other women struggling with sexual addiction...
By Siouxsie
7/23/2012 12:41:07 PM
You are not alone. I am a daughter of God who also struggles with sexual addiction. I have since I was a young girl. I am now 37. But, through the LDS Addiction Recovery program I have found hope. I recently filmed an interview for the church regarding my journey that will air on arp.lds.org soon (hopefully - the anticipation is killing me) and I have also recently started my own blog regarding my recovery journey - bythelightofgrace.blogspot.com. My mission in life is to unite us. To give hope to all who struggle. Satan wants us divided - our Savior is working day and night to gather us. I am grateful for this forum as well to help with the gathering process:-)

Thanks!

Sidreis

bythelightofgrace.blogspot.com

Comments:

Cool!    
"I look forward to seeing your interview. :)"
posted at 19:12:43 on July 23, 2012 by girlie
You are awesome!    
"That is awesome! Thank you so much for putting yourself out there like that. I feel like a lot of people don't realize that women struggle as well. I wrote on voices of virtue about it.

Thank you, you are an inspiration
Another sister/girl who struggles with addiction."
posted at 22:02:20 on July 23, 2012 by anon16
Thanks!    
"Thank you guys:-) I appreciate the comments. I agree - it's dubbed as a "mans disease".. I call it a human disease. We are all given the gift to procreate so Satan will work to exploit it in each of us. Jerk! hah. Ya, no more hiding for me. No one talks about it - well, it's time someone does. :-) I appreciate you! ~Sidreis"
posted at 22:25:38 on July 23, 2012 by siouxsie
Yay!    
"I'm a 17 (almost 18) year old young woman and reading this gives me hope. It can be so hard to remember that we aren't alone or the "odd woman out" because we have a sex addiction. It's never brought up in Young Women's and all the church sponsored addiction groups near me are "Men Only". It's hard to put yourself out there (I have a blog too cleanteenlds.blogspot.com) and I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one doing it. You give me hope for the future."
posted at 17:15:55 on July 24, 2012 by SmileInTears
Love it....    
"Thanks Sidreis....it's always great to find someone else who "gets it". My wife and I run ARP groups during the week. Mine is a PASG group for men, but hers is a woman's group. I just sent her your link for her group tonight. Finding others to share the burden is half the battle some times.
I have a blog at escapefromporn.blogspot.com"
posted at 19:09:20 on July 24, 2012 by chefdalet
Wow!    
"@SMILEINTEARS - I love you! You are so not alone girlie. I get it. I'm sorry there isn't a womens group in your area. Speak to your bishop. There is a link on the arp.lds.org website for leaders to get groups up and going in new areas. I wish you lived in Utah! My group rocks and we'd induct you into to the club:-) I love your blog too... tried to join though just with my Google account and didn't see a way - you might consider revising that. Keep your chin up. You are awesome!

@CHEFDALET - Thank you for the kind words! You totally made my day. I have been having a rough few days and I woke up this morning with a prayer in my heart telling my Heavenly Father "I could really use some good news" and here it is. Thank you for passing my blog on to your wife and other sisters. It makes it all worth it when I can help others. Can you share what area you guys serve in? If you don't feel comfortable sharing that here you can email me at bythelightofgrace@gmail.com. I'm always curious where other womens PASG groups are opening up. It's so awesome to see the program flourishing across the world. By way of a huge miracle I was connected with a sister in Edinburgh almost 2 years ago. Through hard work she was able to get her recommend, receive her endowment, start womens PASG there and just recently got married in the Temple, all in the space of 2 years. God is so good:-) Anyway - I checked out your blog and joined - not much on there though! I'm eager to learn more from you so don't give up on that. Thanks again!"
posted at 00:59:51 on July 25, 2012 by siouxsie
Brain Hiccup...    
"Sorry, don't know what I was thinking...traded in my Blogspot for a Wordpress months ago, and even bought the domain. We are in Oklahoma.
http://escapefromporn.com/"
posted at 08:30:19 on July 26, 2012 by chefdalet
Awesome!    
"Looks like you have some great stuff on there. Thanks for the resource!"
posted at 23:19:20 on July 26, 2012 by siouxsie
You are not alone...    
"I was in a noon group with 14 women in a 12 step sexual addiction group before the LDS program started. I was an original member and am not a woman as our program was an early one and not exclusive. I learned the root cause of both female and male addiction that is the same is "lust". We may have different processes working but it is the process of God Given attraction. The neurotransmitters involved are stronger than that given by Heroin or Opium but all of us are "packing" as one woman told the group. Ironically she was one of my supervisors at work. At first I was scared. But that subsided and she never took advantage of that. There are two in the group I have seen for the last fifteen years in associated groups.

I felt more akin to that group than many male groups, because over half the women were survivors of sexual abuse as children including myself. I rarely find males in that situation. I struggled as a child with this forced addiction. My bishop's treated me as a sinner as they should but there was no such thing as an addiction then. No help for the addict. We have come a long way into realizing this. We are are just at the baby steps of help for this addiction. More must be done for children and I think a group setting of those of like age so you are not alone and we can learn not to beat ourselves up, many other symptoms of self hate maybe for some even commit suicide, etc. I am 59 now. Although I have had many sadness's over my life, most of my 6 daughters have done well. Two with temple marriages and another one coming up sometime in the future. You have a great future ahead of you. Stay in the Church. Read the Book of Mormon 20 minutes a day. My 5th great Uncle was Martin Harris. Once addicted, always addicted. But I know men and women who have had years of sobriety from sexually acting out. It is a struggle. Once 18, you can join SA and find additional help there. Mormons are not the only ones addicted. But we have what others long for, a knowledge of the Spirit of the Holy Ghost and of God through the Spirit. Once you get into a network of the group you can find a sponsor and call someone when you get desperate. We call on the 10 ton phone, but once we can pick it up psychologically we can call that sponsor that has our same problem - addiction and we can be talked down and live another hour, another day. You will fall, but less and less and less until by the gift and grace of God we are strengthened day by day. Part of that sobriety is to help others like us. We help each other. We will always be addicts. I hear people say, when I get cured, when I get healed, when I get fixed. No, if you are an addict there is NO CURE, just an addict not acting out by getting help then helping others. I was in a group called Sexaholics Anonymous or www dot sa dot org If you are a minor you must organize with other minors Adult groups cannot associate with minors. Most minor groups only have standing with a professional or ... I don't know."
posted at 03:13:08 on January 11, 2013 by Elowen


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