Emotional intimacy
By Hopeful1
7/16/2012 9:53:05 PM
I gained a clearer picture today that all my struggles with porn addiction and all my challenges in recovery come down to one common denominator....and that is having emotional intimacy. I was reminded that when I struggle with boredom or stress or loneliness or any other negative emotion I should reach out and work on my relationships. Instead what I have done in the past is find some external source to deal with those feelings in a solitary way. I realized today just how starved I am for intimacy. My relationship with my children is strained. My relationship with my parents is cordial but not as initiate as I need. My relationship with my friends is good but they also have their busy lives. My relationship with my sisters varies with some being unavailable in some form or another. My relationship with my new wife is a work in progress but also a great challenge as she is a very private person and quiet and of a personality that she doesn't like to do the same things I like to do. I feel like the challenges to have deeper relationships are almost overwhelming. I realize it is a two way street. And when I put for the effort and don't get the result I become frustrated. I know I should work on my intimacy with my Heavenly Father. I will start there. Does anyone have any suggestions?


"Charity is the pure love of Christ. Love NEVER fails. Just find ways to love (as an action verb) your spouse. This has worked for me. Things will fall into place."
posted at 08:23:51 on July 17, 2012 by Anonymous
"Pray what Nephi prayed below:

II Nephi 4:31-32
31 O Lord, wilt thou redeem my soul? Wilt thou deliver me out
of the hands of mine enemies? Wilt thou make me that I may shake
at the appearance of sin?

32 May the gates of hell be shut continually before me, because
that my heart is broken and my spirit is contrite! O Lord, wilt
thou not shut the gates of thy righteousness before me, that I
may walk in the path of the low valley, that I may be strict in
the plain road!

I would also pray that you find the joy of the LORD in your life."
posted at 02:00:16 on July 22, 2012 by Anonymous

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"Now brethren, the time has come for any one of us who is so involved to pull himself out of the mire, to stand above this evil thing, to “look to God and live” (Alma 37:47). We do not have to view salacious magazines. We do not have to read books laden with smut. We do not have to watch television that is beneath wholesome standards. We do not have to rent movies that depict that which is filthy. We do not have to sit at the computer and play with ographic material found on the Internet."

— Gordon B. Hinckley

General Conference, October 2004