Day 56
By anon16
7/9/2012 8:20:30 PM
I am almost to day 60, the longest I've ever been sober. But, I almost slipped today and I've had a lot of triggers that completely blindsided me. Like being triggered occasionally when people touch me. What's normal, what's not? I've never had that problem before and it made me feel awful as a person because I really focused on sexual things because of it

I'm trying to get through this, trying to change. I think I'm understanding better, and I am seeing my bishop tomorrow to talk to him about this.

My question would be, any suggestions on how to deal with this when it happens again?


way to go!    
"You're doing awesome, Anon. It has been so inspiring to watch you grow, change, and improve since the days when you first came here all mad at your Bishop and claiming you couldn't change and you had no desire to do so. I hope you can see that you ARE making progress, however slowly. Keep it up, keep trying to change your heart and desires.

I remember the first few months of sobriety well. For me, the keys were to keep up the dailies, stay completely honest and accountable to someone, and try not to get too worried or scared or freaked out when temptations and triggers would come. They are going to come, I can't avoid them, so why worry about them. Just because I'm tempted doesn't mean I have to act out. Just because I want a candy bar doesn't mean I have to eat one. Being tempted doesn't make me a bad person -- even Jesus was tempted.

You ask what is normal. It's normal to be REALLY sensitive to triggers and temptations at this point. Almost any temptation is normal, considering your history. Don't be too hard on yourself"
posted at 03:55:05 on July 10, 2012 by beclean

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"I have come to know that thoughts, like water, will stay on course if we make a place for them to go. Otherwise, our thoughts follow the course of least resistance, always seeking the lower levels. Probably the greatest challenge and the most difficult thing you will face in mortal life is to learn to control your thoughts. In the Bible it says, as a man ‘thinketh in his heart, so is he’ (Prov. 23:7). One who can control his thoughts has conquered himself. As you learn to control your thoughts, you can overcome habits, even degrading personal habits. You can gain courage, conquer fear, and have a happy life. "

— Boyd K. Packer

BYU, Speeches of the Year, 26 Sept. 1967