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Any Counsel?
By will
6/12/2012 6:00:14 PM
I had been doing great for almost 5 months. I fully realize this is a terrible excuse for having any problems, but my wife left to go out of town for a few weeks. Metaphorically speaking, I didn't completely "fall off the wagon" but I think it dragged me a couple hundred yards and ran over my foot once. lol

I think the problem was a degree of complacency on my part. I should have seen it as a danger and prepared better for it. It shouldn't have been a problem. I'm committing to the members of this site, and more importantly to my Heavenly Father, that the remaing 2 weeks of my wifes absence will not be a problem. My plan: swallow my pride and put it back in the Lord's hands.

With that said, any counsel would be appreciated. I'll report on my success in a couple weeks.

Comments:

My best council    
"The best thing I can think to tell you is to remain humble. By doing that you realize that you need help. And when you need help you actively seek it from the lord through prayer and scripture study. That is how I've been living my life recently and though I'm only on day 4 since my last slip, I've felt a major change in my life. I'm glad to hear about your 5 months of success! And I know that you wont have any problems!"
posted at 20:50:09 on June 12, 2012 by jja1234
serving others    
"spend all of your free time in service to others.

As my mama always said, "idle hands are the Devil's workplace"."
posted at 12:04:06 on June 13, 2012 by Anonymous
Tell your wife immediately    
"If you haven't already. Tell her you slipped and that you are letting her know because you want to stop the slip right now with complete transparency and honesty.

That ought to put you right back on the wagon--you probably won't have any desire to go back to your wife and tell her you slipped AGAIN.

When you are completely honest, and you KNOW you are ALWAYS going to be completely honest with your spouse, you will avoid falling at all costs. Who wants to tell your spouse what you did?

Congratulations on 5 months. Congratulations on running here. Those are great steps. Keep up the good work."
posted at 19:04:18 on June 13, 2012 by beclean
Similar situation    
"Will,

Hello. I was just reading your post and some of your previous posts. I was surprised at how similar our situations are. I actually fell off the wagon last week after 6 months of sobriety. I was also away from my wife at this time. I too feel like complacency was a big part of my problem. In fact, as I was reading one of your earlier posts, I noticed that I had shared some good advice, that I failed to follow prior to my most recent stumble. I have to travel a lot for extended periods of time, and that is where I struggle the most.

While I am bummed, I have decided to treat this as a "flat tire" that I will quickly change and get back on the road to recovery again. I choose to learn from each slip, and hope that this will be the last one. Most of all, it is good to know that we are not alone in this battle.

You sound very similar to me in your concerns, etc. Maybe it would be worth exchanging emails to mutually check up on each other. Let me know what you think. Good luck, I will be praying for your success for the next few weeks.

ILMW"
posted at 22:12:52 on June 17, 2012 by ILMW
ILMW    
"Thanks for your response and support. Unfortunately, I think there are a lot of us facing similar challenges. But I'm confident that as long as we don't give up, we'll reach our "sobriety" goals. My current email address contains my entire name. So in the interest of anonymity, I think for now I'll just keep blogging occasionally. Thanks again for your support and my God bless you in your continued efforts.
Will"
posted at 17:00:31 on June 22, 2012 by will


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