By maddy
5/18/2012 8:27:33 AM
I heard a beautiful thought on Focus on the Family yesterday that I wanted to share here:

The DJ's were talking about marriages that are struggling and one of them said, (this is not exact) that marriages where there has had to be an extremely great form of forgiveness are special beyond those that have not required it. Forgiveness brings a sacred quality to a marriage relationship. Those relationships where it happens become Godly in a way that other marriages are not.

I am not trying to say that sin and forgiveness are essential for people to have a great or Godly relationship, but I do want to say that I have experienced that the essence of what this DJ was saying is true.

My marriage has become SO, SO, SO much better because of the trials of addiction and the compassion and forgiveness that has followed. There was a time that I didn't have any hope for love in my marriage again, but today I honestly can't imagine anything so precious as the journey my husband and I have been on.


Reminds me of the Proclamation    
""Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities."

Everything mentioned above is required for a successful, happy, strong marriage. Lot's of marriages in the Church work together; they participate in recreational activities; they respect and even love each other; they may pray together daily. But that's only half of the ingredients. I bet many marriages don't truly experience faith, repentance, forgiveness, and compassion until they have worked through a serious problem side-by-side (on the same team). In fact, Adam and Eve had barely scratched the surface of what a marriage was about until they lost EVERYTHING through transgression, and they had to rebuild their lives together and help each other back to God."
posted at 09:38:04 on May 18, 2012 by BeClean
You're sweet, Maddy    
"That is an amazing testimony, Maddy. You mentioned before feeling gratitude for this trial. I can't imagine ever feeling grateful for this trial. I mean, for whatever good I gain from it, I have still lost so much. I admire that you have taken something so ugly and found a way to turn it for your good."
posted at 11:40:54 on May 18, 2012 by katie
"How I long to be forgiven by my ex wife and her family and my children. I pray and hope for the day."
posted at 21:18:36 on May 18, 2012 by Anonymous
Your amazing    
"Good for you. I am so happy that you have been able to find this bitter sweet thought with all that has happened."
posted at 01:15:05 on May 22, 2012 by stoptheabuse
Thank you!    
"Thank you for your beautiful thinking :) It's really inspiring."
posted at 11:19:42 on July 7, 2012 by Girlie
I wish my wife would listen to you.    
"She fights forgiveness. I see her hurting. It sucks."
posted at 18:03:33 on July 7, 2012 by Anonymous
Forgiveness Heals    
"I truly believe that we will be able to experience true peace and happiness in this life by forgiving everyone who we feel has harmed us.

I believe Father in Heaven is trying to tell us something here. He is telling us that we will experience more love and happiness in this life if we will forgive. Holding back forgiveness is the same thing as holding back the peace and joy we so deeply want in this life.

I also believe that forgiveness is more beneficial to the one who forgives than the person they have forgiven. It allows us to let go of all the pain of the past and move forward in our own lives with love and goodness. Give more forgiveness if you want more mercy...Give more love, if you want more love... Whatever it is you want, give more of it. The grace of Christ is LOVE!

Maddy, I too am experiencing the sweet fruit of forgiveness. Not only in my marriage, but in other relationships as well...I have forgiven and show love to someone in my life right now who is normally very unkind to me. I know deep within my heart that this anger is only a mask for the pain they are feeling. This is something I was unable to do in the past. However, the healing balm of forgiveness allows us to see our addicted loved ones as wounded children who are in need of love and kindness. Isn't that what we all are, wounded? And in need of love?

I am grateful for a loving Father who gave me the hard stuff so as to prove to myself that with his power, and his love, I can forgive, I can love, and I can do anything he asks of me.

I pray that each of us will forgive all who who have wronged us. I pray for the peace that comes into a heart that forgives. And, I especially pray that we will all learn to forgive the one person whom we beat up on the most....Ourselves.

I am wishing you a beautiful Sabbath day tomorrow,

posted at 23:51:05 on July 7, 2012 by angelmom
Forgiveness is the Key    
"I have been thinking about forgiveness a lot lately. I have spent a great deal of time working on repentance too. A key ah-hah for me was when I finally realized how important it was for me to forgive all the resentments I was carrying before I could be forgiven myself in my repentance process. I recently read a book by Dr. Lund called "For All Eternity " that stated it well.

"Forgiveness is an interesting principle in and of itself. It’s something about which God is very jealous. And that is His right. Vengeance is the Lord’s. Now, the Lord is very clear about our responsibility. One of the greatest sins we could ever commit, even greater than the sin of adultery, is the sin of not forgiving. It’s next in seriousness only to the unpardonable sin of a son of perdition. And the reason for that is we are telling the Lord that what He did in completing the Atonement doesn’t count, that we reserve the right to choose who we are going to forgive and not forgive."

Lund, Dr. John L. (2011-12-09). For All Eternity (Kindle Location 2281). Deseret Book Company. Kindle Edition.

This had changed my attitude towards praying a lot. I have been praying for others that I may have understanding and clarity so I can let my resentments go. I actually think that over 50% of the pain that Christ suffered was to pay the cost of resentments and the pain of being a victim of others choices.

With the amount of sin I have in my bag, I don't want to carry any unforgiven resentment back to judgment bar. It's my best chance of surviving. I want to become a world class forgiver!

My 2 cents..

Thanks Maddy. Great Topic!"
posted at 08:47:07 on July 8, 2012 by hurtallover

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