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TTT
By TTT
3/8/2012 11:50:26 PM
I am 15 and I started masterbating and looking at pornography when i was 12. I have been to the bishop several times, prayed, fasted, and none of it helps. I feel like I have ran out of options and i dont know who to turn too. I want to change but im afraid that i will end up not wanting to and giving up. Any advice is needed and appreciated.

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hello my friend    
"
Reaching out is the first step, try to find other help such as a 12-steps program, when willpower is not enough seek the help of other people who understand your addiction as well, pray to find guidance and god will help you

God bless you

your friend from europe"
posted at 00:35:17 on March 9, 2012 by mike81
Im 17 male    
"I'm going through the same thing. How are you getting your porn?"
posted at 02:18:03 on March 9, 2012 by moroni
TTT    
"On my iPod but before I would get it off the computer"
posted at 16:15:20 on March 9, 2012 by TTT
Ipod Advice    
"I had that problem too. But this is where you decide that you want nothing to do with it. You will need to make a sacrifice. Go to the settings on your Ipod, then General, then Restrictions. Then I realized I was getting porn through Safari and apps. I also was getting soft pron from youtube. So disable youtube, safari, and restrict your apps to 12+ instead of 17+. Mind you, I'm over 17 and I still have to do this. And then you need to either close your eyes and just hit some keys to make your password or you need to go to a parent and have them make an unguessable restrictions password.

When I first did this, I was hesitant. What if I end up needing Safari? Youtube isn't that bad? What if I decide later I want a 17+ app? Those were the dumbest questions ever. I wanted free and this is what it takes.

Jesus took on sweating blood and hanging on a cross for us. Because we are worth it to him. Are we worth it to ourselves to take on a safari less ipod? To take on withdrawals? To conquer hesitation? Are you worth it?

Remember who you are. You are a child of God. You are worth it.

Two of my favorite songs are Beautiful (by MercyMe) and You Are More (by Tenth Avenue North). You should listen to them. They remind me of who I am. I am more than this weakness. And I'm beautiful to Him despite the fact that I feel so weak."
posted at 16:49:59 on March 9, 2012 by iamstrong
Take a breath    
"TTT, welcome to the site. You are a good kid. I can tell because you are reaching out. You are visiting the bishop. You want to do the right thing. You will beat this, believe me.

But it won't happen today. You won't say, "I'm done," and never be tempted again. It doesn't work like that.

Here is your quest: Seek God. Find Him. Learn about Him. Trust Him. Serve Him. Turn your life over to Him. HE will fight your battles, make weak things strong, and take away this problem in HIS time.

So, relax a little, and don't focus on what you are doing wrong. We all have problems. We all make mistakes. In a way, that is what this life is for. You are no different than BILLIONS of others. You are not alone.

Keep talking to your bishop. Seek help from parents, from groups. But don't just focus on this addiction. YOU are not your problems. You are a child of God.

Learn to feed your Spirit with the scriptures, prayer, appropriate media, service, etc. Turn your young life over to God and over time, he WILL set you free. Even if it takes years--it took years to fall into this mess, it may take years for God to lift you out, but he WILL lift you out, one day at a time.

You are not alone. You are not the only one.
You cannot overcome this alone.
You cannot overcome it by obsessing about it and worrying about it all the time.
Only GOD can remove you from this.
Turn yourself over to him in every way, and He will free you.
He won't free you tonight, but keep going.
One day, you will know that He has freed you. I promise!"
posted at 18:14:07 on March 9, 2012 by beclean
Ipod    
"I blocked my safari last weekend and closed my eyes and I just ended up going on google, however I need the internet on my iPod because that's how I found and go on this website which I think will help a lot."
posted at 01:05:31 on March 10, 2012 by TTT
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"Use the site whenever you are tempted and find a sponsor or someone you can be accountable to. You need to have people to talk to when you are feeling tempted. It is very unlikely that you will give in while you are on the phone with a sponsor. And usually the temptation has passed or you've received good advice so that you can cope with it after the call.

And replace your addiction with Jesus. I searched out porn like crazy. I would dedicate hours to it. Read it, watch it, learn about it. If only we put that much effort towards our Savior. If only we were that obsessed with Him."
posted at 10:41:44 on March 10, 2012 by iamstrong
How    
"How do I find a sponser?"
posted at 01:06:29 on March 11, 2012 by TTT
Talk to your Bishop    
"Ask him about the Church's Addiction Recovery Program. They hold 12 step meetings and the groups are kind of like the support system you find here. Since you are a minor, you're options are limited in regards to SA meetings and ARP meetings. But you can go to a Church ARP/PASG (Pornography Addiction Support Group) meeting if your bishop (or maybe a parent) goes with you. There you can meet others who have gone through the same thing. A sponsor is generally of the same gender and further along in recovery than you. I would offer to be your sponsor but I'm assuming your male (I could be wrong) and I'm a girl so that wouldn't work well.

But just talk to your bishop about getting a sponsor. The bishop is great for your repentance process and recovery but it helps A LOT to have someone who truly understands this addiction. They can share their story with you, tell you what they've learned, and just be there for you."
posted at 03:21:33 on March 11, 2012 by iamstrong
TTT hey budddy    
"Sorry I forgot to reply. Haha, I'm on this site with my phone, the very device that has aided in my pornography use. Its really not funny, its ridiculous. I understand you, I'm going through the same thing right now, but you have more courage than me. I have not confessed. Your stronger than you think.

There is thing called k9web browser that is available for iPod and computer use. I can help you set up the account and password so you cant disable it ;-) It can filter out porn and other numerous things. Your young, I would love to help you and in the process help myself."
posted at 23:56:17 on March 11, 2012 by moroni
Thanks    
"Your fine and thanks for everything I really appreciate it. I think that that would help a lot if you wouldn't mind helping me with setting it up."
posted at 00:25:13 on March 12, 2012 by Anonymous
Sorry    
"That was me by the way"
posted at 00:26:46 on March 12, 2012 by TTT
yeah sure    
"I'm gonna be out of town but once I get home I'll figure something out. O dont think this is a hole we want to be in right? I've read a lot of stories of adults having this problem for 15 years, lets help each other out."
posted at 05:32:41 on March 12, 2012 by moroni


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