In need of a sponsor
By Ether 12:27
2/16/2012 12:22:06 PM
I live in the Boise ID area and have recently confessed to my wife of almost 2 years and my Bishop. I don't want my wife to have to hear a daily recap of how good or bad my days are. I have promised her that if I am struggling or slip up I will tell her immediatly. My question is, where can I find a sponsor to help me down this long road?


Sexaholics Anonymous    
"Try the chapter of sexaholics anonymous in your city. They typically have the most complete twelve step program. I recommend you go to group and then talk to one of the people who marked on the role that they are willing to sponsor.

This link should take you to the contact info for a sexaholics anonymous group near you.

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The lds PASG groups are nice as well, but I don't think they're quite as intense as sexaholics anonymous. I recommend you go to a couple different groups and decide what works for you. I've also heard great things about telephone groups, but I don't know anything about where to find one.

I think there are some advantages to having a sponsor you can meet face to face. It makes the fifth step more comfortable. Whatever you choose, make sure you get a sponsor soon. The program is almost impossible without one."
posted at 16:24:34 on February 16, 2012 by ETTE
There are support groups in your area.    
"If I were you, I would look up either LDS PASG groups or SA meetings. There you can meet a sponsor."
posted at 16:24:53 on February 16, 2012 by iamstrong
I dont think PSAG does sponsors    
"SA I only see 1 meeting in boise.

Im in SAA
It has a bunch of different meetings in boise.

I do SAA since there are more options where I live. I have a sponsor who is a super nice Jewish guy but he understands me. We have people in our group that struggle from everything from porn to masturbation to court ordered attendees.

I would recommend going a few times before you decide if you like it. I felt really uncomfortable the first 2 times until I found a group that had more people "like me"

good luck. It will show a lot to wife and others if you start ths work on your own."
posted at 16:36:36 on February 16, 2012 by hurtallover
Whomever you are comfortable with.    
"They probably all have good groups and bad. I have never been to SAA, but I have attended quite a few AA meetings even though I don’t have an alcohol problem. You might go to some of the LDS general addiction meetings as well. You will find LDS people who are more likely to have experience with sponsorship. Whatever program you find your sponsor in, the two most important things are that they are the same gender and you can relate to them. Just like the Jewish guy Hurt mentioned. Religion and even the type of addiction aren’t that important. They also should be ahead of you in recovery. Even if you find someone you want to be your sponsor and they have never been a sponsor or sponsee before I don’t think makes a whole lot of difference. Years ago a couple of people asked me to be their sponsor and I told them I had no idea what a sponsor did, because I never had one. I don’t think I was much help, but I could have been. Since then I have read AA literature on sponsorship and attended a lot of AA and SA meetings had sponsors and sponsored others. Now I realize that I should have just asked them what they were looking for in a sponsor and then the two of us could have decided if that was something I could/should provide. Sponsorship doesn’t have to look like just one thing. I have sponsored an alcoholic even though I have never drank, but I figured if he thought I could help, who was I to say I wasn’t qualified. Find someone you feel a kinship with and ask them. One of my early friends in recovery probably filled the role of a sponsor for me even though we never called it that. He was a support friend. Someone I could call if needed and someone I turned to when I needed advice.

Good luck finding the support you need."
posted at 23:55:11 on February 17, 2012 by justjohn

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