im so ashamed
By churchgirl
1/20/2012 4:46:32 PM


Picking up    
"We each stumble and fall and the key to moving on is picking ourselves up and saying I can do better. Don't let a slip today get you down. Pick yourself up and move forward. Seek HF's guidance and ask Him for forgiveness. Go see your Bishop. He holds the keys to helping your progress through this trial you are having. Keep a prayer in your heart and know you can be forgiven and you are worth it. Don't ever forget this. You are a daughter of God and He loves you. *hugs*"
posted at 17:20:53 on January 20, 2012 by rachp
Our Prayers Are With You    
"I'm not sure what it is you did (and I don't need to know), but whatever it is, you can and will be forgiven of it if you repent.

Someone recently quoted one of the Apostles who said that preoccupation with our sins can cause us to sin even more. Stop wallowing in toxic shame. Godly sorrow is what you need to feel. That means it's time to lift your head up, young lady, and realize that the Jesus who forgave the woman at the well and the adulteress caught in the act also loves and forgives you. But there is a commandment that we confess serious sins to our bishop as part of the process of repentance. Please take that important first step. It's a step towards healing and freedom and great self esteem.

Know that you're a good, decent soul who is worth saving but who has made some mistakes in her young life, and go into the Bishop's office with that attitude.

I'm so glad that you're reaching out. It shows that you really do care, that you do have a broken heart and a contrite spirit. But don't have a broken spirit, just a broken heart. Again, lift your head up and know that you are a valued daughter of our Heavenly Father. Pray to him for the courage and the strength to confess. And I'll be praying for you along with a lot of other people."
posted at 19:14:20 on January 20, 2012 by dog
I slipped too    
"I am back at day one... again. I am learning to use each slip as a learning experience and be gentle with myself... I want to grow and overcome this but not wallow in misery. Today is day one for me... tomorrow is day 2! how great is that? I can start over and continue in recovery with more tools and more resolve than I had last time. Let's get well."
posted at 20:45:02 on January 20, 2012 by Anonymous
I slip. More than I think I should.    
"I still do. But you can't focus on that. Keep getting back up. I'm here for you. As one of my favorite Christian songs says "No guilt in life, no fear in death, this is the power of Christ in me." You will experience guilt but if you get back up and let Christ into your life, He will heal you. You don't have to wallow in guilt. You don't have to be ashamed. God loves you. You are in my prayers and you've got my support. Always here for you."
posted at 21:49:37 on January 20, 2012 by iamstrong
Talk to the big guy    
"You know... I think one of the biggest mistakes we all do to ourselves is distinguish the "bad" us from the "good" us. I've done it so many times in my life and I promise that there is no devil inside of you pushing you toward those things. You're a good girl who makes mistakes. There's a big difference.
I promise that there will be slip-ups, but you need to forgive yourself and know that you're stronger than you think you are. Think about what your triggers are. They are probably small things that lead up to larger things. Figure out what the small things are and let God help you with those first. You are not a bad person. I've heard it becomes easier if you tackle the tiny things first.... like, pray to have the strength to not be by yourself with the computer. I've only been on here for two weeks and I knew that I had to tell a friend or I would justify it. The steps help. I'll keep you in my prayers. Know that you're not alone and we're all struggling with these things. We're here for you!"
posted at 17:53:31 on January 23, 2012 by reform2012
dear churchgirl    
"I don't have time to read everyone's replies, so I hope this isn’t just blah, blah, blah. God NEVER, NEVER, NEVER gets tired of you turning to Him. His love and patience are INFINITE. Shame has no part in God’s plan. Guilt is only good until it pushes us to turn to Him and head in the right direction. After that He doesn’t want us to even feel guilty anymore. At that point we are repenting and doing the right thing, so He wants us to be happy. We are following the plan of happiness. That is my testimony and I am sticking to it.

I am speaking from personal experience. I am betting that I have tried His patience more than you. I started having problems over 45 years ago. I have been in recovery for over 11 years. I should have years of sobriety, but I am working on days. Thankfully my lows are better than most of my highs used to be. I can’t tell you how many times I have quit and failed! What I am trying to say is I have learned enough about His love and patience that I no longer hold His love at bay until I feel like I deserve it. I let Him rain down His love and grace whenever He feels like it, and I am often surprised at how quickly it comes.

Remember He is more excited when you repent than over 100 good church girls who need no repentance! He says so in the Book! He also says he will forgive you every time you repent."
posted at 18:50:43 on January 23, 2012 by justjohn

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"I will speak briefly of the principle of repentance. How grateful I am for the understanding we have of this great principle. It is not a harsh principle, as I thought when I was a boy. It is kind and merciful. The Hebrew root of the word means, simply, "to turn," or to return, to God. Jehovah pled with the children of Israel: "Return . . . and I will not cause mine anger to fall upon you: for I am merciful . . . and I will not keep anger for ever. Only acknowledge thine iniquity, that thou hast transgressed against the Lord thy God." When we acknowledge our sins, confess them and forsake them, and turn to God, He will forgive us."

— Richard G. Hinckley

General Conference April 2006