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Step 1
By quuephe
1/15/2012 10:38:45 PM
Step 1 - Key Principle — Admit that you, of yourself, are powerless to overcome your addictions and that your life has become unmanageable.
Ok. Here goes!

Q, I have problem. I have an addiction. I am addicted to Sex/porn/MB. Anyone or all... I'm not sure. Either way, I have tried and tried and have not been able to completely overcome. I cannot manage it. I need help!

~Q

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Step 1 :)    
"This is it. Once you are honest to yourself and God, you can allow the Atonement to work in your life. Remember that there is hope and that with God, nothing is impossible."
posted at 01:12:41 on January 16, 2012 by Iamstrong
strangly,    
"that was easier than I thought it would be and harder than I expected... If that makes any sense... or maybe it's the other way around... I don't know... It's bitter sweet in that I know it's going to take a lot of hard work and that because of how long I have been dealing with this, there is going to be pain, but oh how sweet is the love of God!!!!

~Q"
posted at 07:16:57 on January 16, 2012 by quuephe
Retrospect....    
"Ironically, admitting your addiction to yourself ends up being the hardest person to tell....Took me over 35 years. After that, it only took a week or so to admit to my wife and a month or more to admit to my Stake President."
posted at 21:13:59 on January 16, 2012 by chefdalet
It's like a chinese finger trap...    
"It's the hardest thing to admit too. We all think we can/could quit. We "chose to act out".

The analogy I like best is that our addictions are like a chinese finger trap. Ever try of those? As long as you dont try to pull your fingers out, it loosens and you feel like you can pull your fingers out whenever you want. Then when you try to pull them out, the trap tightens and you are stuck! I tried a zillion times to get get out by myself. My addiction didnt feel like an addiction when I wasnt trying to quit. As soon as I tried to quit, I felt the pressure and couldnt get out. So what did I do? stop fighting that and keep acting out -- then the pressure is off and I dont feel addicted again.. Whoo hoo..

I guess you can take the analogy further - you can't get out of the finger trap off by yourself. You need someone to hold the trap and then you can pull your fingers out.. likewise, its almost impossible to fix our addiction by ourself. We need help from lots of people -- bishop, the Lord, counselors, accountability partners, etc.

I know it was really hard to label myself "Im an addict".. those words felt like sand in my mouth. I felt like I was broken. It's ok. this weakness will require us to stay close to the Lord to stay in recovery. And when we are close to the Lord, we will be the most awesome, mindful, accountable, empathetic, compassionate people possible.

good luck.

If you dont know what I'm referring to, here is a picture.
http://www.beyond-karma.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/finger-trap.jpg"
posted at 08:16:00 on January 17, 2012 by Hurtallover
So true    
"I don't know how I came to realize that I was addicted. I know that it was a slow dawning and one day I realized that for a while, I'd known I was addicted I just didn't realize. After that, I called the KLove ministries (it was on the radio) to see if they had or knew of a sex addiction group in my area. I spoke to my therepist who didn't help out a lot. After thinking about it for a few days, I spoke to my girlfriend (now wife) about it. She's been very supportive, but it's been a hard road.
The chinese finger trap... I'd never thought of it that way. For me, growing up in the church, I knew what I was doing was wrong. I'd go through spells of doing good and then one thing or another would shore me up. I've always felt the pressure, but like you said with the finger trap, when I tried to pull away, the pressure was intensified! I wanted out of the pressure of doing wrong but I didn't want to deal with the pressure of pulling away! Doesn't help a sittuation like ours.

Currently, I'm disfellowshipped and I can't use the priesthood to bless my home or family. That is one of the things that has helped me to decide that I will work thourgh this pressure and get the help I need!

~Q"
posted at 09:28:19 on January 17, 2012 by quuephe


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"Now brethren, the time has come for any one of us who is so involved to pull himself out of the mire, to stand above this evil thing, to “look to God and live” (Alma 37:47). We do not have to view salacious magazines. We do not have to read books laden with smut. We do not have to watch television that is beneath wholesome standards. We do not have to rent movies that depict that which is filthy. We do not have to sit at the computer and play with ographic material found on the Internet."

— Gordon B. Hinckley

General Conference, October 2004