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By churchgirl
1/1/2012 11:34:00 AM
Now that its a new year i have decided that it is time to confess
i just have no idea how. see ive never been to a bishop and had to confess something what do you say when you get there how to you approach the topic of pornography and sex? what will happen after i do this. im so close to confessing its on the tip of my tongue. i guess that i am just scared of the after affects.

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Just say it    
"I spent years worrying. Worrying about how to confess or how to say it or what the effects would be. And it was horrible. Don't worry. Just say it. And then the bishop will ask questions and help. So many people are afraid. I was. But talking to the bishop is a step in the right direction. It isn't a step back. It isn't a punishment. It is a step towards freedom. Freedom from guilt. Freedom from fear. Freedom from pain. And that is what will happen afterwards. I seriously went in and when he asked what was wrong said "I have a problem with pornography." And then it opened it up for me to talk about all of my sexual addiction. Just say something and the Spirit will take care of the rest."
posted at 13:59:47 on January 1, 2012 by Iamstrong
I wrote a letter ....    
"My reality -- I was too scared to confess some stuff about 15 years ago. I thought asking the executive secretary for a interview would be mortifying and everyone would wonder what the problem was. I wrote the bishop a letter explaining my sin and that I didnt know how to confess... I got a call from the exec secretary a few days later..

Actual reality --- the bishop gets lots of requests for interviews for a million different reasons. there are a lot of people that confess pretty minor stuff to the bishop -- thats just what they learned to do. Frankly, the executive secretary doesnt really care.. If he does care, he has a feeling of love that you are taking care of your issues.

IAMstrong has it all right. good luck!"
posted at 16:40:07 on January 1, 2012 by Anonymous
Your Bishop loves you.....    
"Having served as Bishop I can tell you that he is there to help you and show you the unconditional love that your addiction tells you that you are not worthy of. Trust your feelings."
posted at 17:33:37 on January 1, 2012 by chefdalet
I wrote as well    
"I too wrote a letter to my Bishop and it was the best thing I ever did. It opened communication pathway when I felt I could not. At first I was not able to even say what I was involved in, yet as time passed and the shame lessened I was able to speak freely with him about my successes and struggles. Your bishop will be your biggest advocate, if you will allow him. I to feared the consequences both spiritually and temporally. I had bonded with my Bishops small son and his son was my saving grace and I feared my Bishop would tell me he didn't want me around his kids, and the exact opposite happened. His children were a key ingredient in my healing process. They loved me when I couldn't even love myself. To this day they are part of my life.

Take a chance and leap of faith and trust. I did and I don't regret doing it. Good luck! You can do this!"
posted at 12:39:08 on January 2, 2012 by rachp
Just do it    
"You're so close that we're all giving you gentle nudges towards the executive secretary. Please unburden yourself. If you want to send a letter to your bishop, then do that. If you want to go into the interview with a note explaining your situation, and just hand it to him when he asks how he can help you, do that, and let him read it. Then the ball is in his court, and he can take it from there.

He is not there to punish you. He's there to help you feel good again, to help you heal, and to help you feel clean again. That's what the Atonement is for, to give you the opportunity to repent and to make you feel good about yourself again.

Please take advantage of it. It comes at a great price."
posted at 13:53:58 on January 2, 2012 by dog


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