Out of the Fire & Into the Frying Pan
12/19/2011 1:53:32 AM
Just when I thought I had control & things were going well; I found out that I didn't have control, that I things aren't the way that I thought they were & that there are some major issues that I have to help resolve.
I found out today that one of my teenage children is having an inappropriate relationship with an adult. I also found out that this child, has been hiding an addiction to pornography. Sigh.
My whole thought process of me fixing me was to help my children avoide getting addicted to stuff like I do.
I'm not angry. At first I was, but I'm not anymore. This child needs my love & support. This child needs to know how much they are loved. This child needs to understand the Atonement & apply it to their lives.
Anyone out there that has dealt with an addicted Teen....did you have your teen go to an ARP group or did they just go to a counselor & have occasional visits with the Bishop.
I"m in new territory so any help or advice would be very helpful.


As a teen, I just went to the Bishop.    
"I think it is different for everyone and that you should have your teen talk with the Bishop and see what he thinks. You should pray about it and do what feels best for your particular child. I have friends who went to ARP while they were teens. I would characterize them as independent boys. They needed to be in an environment where they felt they were working at progress. They felt like they were old enough and independent enough to go to ARP. But I, being a young girl, wasn't ready for that. So my recovery was much more private and was with the Bishop and a counselor. So I think you should do your best to work with your child in a specific way that is best for them."
posted at 21:10:24 on December 20, 2011 by iamstrong

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"By emulating the Master, who endured temptations but “gave no heed unto them,” we, too, can live in a world filled with temptations “such as [are] common to man”. Of course Jesus noticed the tremendous temptations that came to him, but He did not process and reprocess them. Instead, He rejected them promptly. If we entertain temptations, soon they begin entertaining us! Turning these unwanted lodgers away at the doorstep of the mind is one way of giving “no heed.” Besides, these would-be lodgers are actually barbarians who, if admitted, can be evicted only with great trauma."

— Neal A. Maxwell

General Conference May 1987