am I an addict?
By ddd
11/20/2011 11:52:44 PM
active member of the church, in my late 40's, married, 7 children, have had problems with self stimulation on and off since my teen years. currently no incidence for over a month, no sexual relations with wife for 3 months, some "explicit" material viewed on internet when first signed up mid 90's, since then been pretty clean, maybe a few times a year will search out orgasm, sexuality, with some explicit pics or video, relations with wife, both physical and emotional intimacy like a roller coaster, sometime great, other times horrible. Would love to never have a problem again with either. What to do? I do tend to want to keep things covered up.


The last words    
""Cover Up".

Tell you everything about your state right now.
The fact you are asking the Q is also a good measure.

Reaching out to others is part of the initial escape from denial.

I cannot tell you whether you are an addict, but there are many similarities I shared with you at the start of my recovery."
posted at 10:01:50 on November 21, 2011 by ruggaexpat
I don't think it really matters...    
"I am hesitant to label you as an addict but you definitely have problems that you need to work on. And the 12 steps can help everyone. Just be completely honest with yourself, accept the atonement, and work each day to change. The fact that you seek out explicit material is a problem. And whether you are addicted or you just like it every once in a while, it's bad. And you've gotta work to stop that. If you never want to have the problem again, then make a decision to stop. And then do what it takes. Addict or not, you gotta stop."
posted at 11:52:26 on November 21, 2011 by iamstrong
Give this book a shot    
"Spend some time in the SA white book. It will help you sort things out. I would start on page 26 with the problem."
posted at 15:37:45 on November 21, 2011 by jblackb

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"The excuse is given that it is hard to avoid, that it is right at our fingertips and there is no escape. Suppose a storm is raging and the winds howl and the snow swirls about you. You find yourself unable to stop it. But you can dress properly and seek shelter, and the storm will have no effect upon you. Likewise, even though the Internet is saturated with material, you do not have to watch it. You can retreat to the shelter of the gospel and its teaching of cleanliness and virtue and purity of life. "

— Gordon B. Hinckley

General Conference, October 2004