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Mixed Emotions...
By confidence
10/5/2011 10:43:54 AM
So, I can't decide if I'm allowing myself to feel good and give myself complements, or am I being selfish and egotistical?

I deserve to have a husband that is not a sex addict. I am a special, wonderful person. I have a strong testimony, which I've learned to share. I have talents. I help others in ways I don't know. I am a good, fun mom. I have a way with animals. I am fun to be around. I may have been naive, but I find that was a strength in the fact that I'd not seen too much crap on TV or in movies. I am awesome.

So, again, where is it that I deserve to have to deal with a sex addict, and someone that has abused me verbally and physically? Couldn't Heavenly Father given me some other trials to help me learn things?

I deserve to have a man that loves himself, me, our kids, and does things that show all the above. I deserve to have a man that gets a stable job by the age of 30. I deserve to have a man that puts forth all efforts in school/work to make it so I can raise our children, not someone else, for any amount of time. I deserve to have a man that does his own school work and doesn't guilt me do it by telling me I'm a bad wife if I don't write/edit/type a paper he has due soon.

It just doesn't make sense to me.

Also, like I said, is it just awful I'm feeling this way? :-S I know he's been trying HIS best the last couple of days. But, I'm still grieving I guess what I was told in YW's that men are supposed to be like as husbands, friends and fathers.

Comments:

you are great!!    
"confidence, I don't know you or your husband but wanted to post. You are awesome. You are special. You are not being conceited at all. In my opinion, it is super healthy to remember who you are and what you excell at. You are doing what you can! You do derserve better. But every moment in life is a learning moment. I remember E. Christoperson spoke on that April 2011. You are not awful at all for feeling how you feel. You are a woman. A daughter of god. I understand now why the YM have to repeat that so much. Women are very much entitled to feel emotion and to express it. The world is blessed so much bc of women like you.

How do we reach these guys?? (me included). How do we get these husbands to man up?? I know it is hard for us but golly, I am sickened when I hear about these men who abuse their wives. i wish I could come talk to him. (but I am just an addict too. and not even married)

You do not have to hold his hand all the time. Sorry if this is not helpful. I don't know how women are suposed to act or respond but I am more a fighter and I would set defined boundaries. Addict or not, we have to take care of life and our families!

hopefully a woman comments on this and gives better advice. But sometimes advice is not what is needed, so take courage in your abilities/testimony! Pioneer women had to pull handcarts when their husbands were not there."
posted at 10:59:09 on October 5, 2011 by warrior


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"In a decaying environment, the mind is the last redoubt of righteousness, and it must be preserved even amid bombardment by evil stimuli. Christ is competent to see us through, “for in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succour them that are tempted” As promised, He will make either “a way to escape” or a way “to bear it”."

— Neal A. Maxwell

General Conference May 1987