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Celebrating our victories
By Braingeek
8/24/2011 2:17:16 PM
Hey everyone, I'm writing from work today during a quick break. My wife left yesterday morning for a two day camping trip with her mom and took the baby, so I was left at home by myself. I was pretty worried about it. In the past I havent done all that well when left to fend for myself. I usually ended up thinking "maybe I'll just have soak in the tub" or something else that I knew had been a problem situation in the past. So yesterday, i loaded up the Book of Mormon audiobook on my iPhone and listened to and from work, as well as during some downtime and on headphones while doing some errands. When I got home, it was only 4:00. I had all night by myself! However, I said a prayer asking for the strength to keep clean and went to work finding things to keep me busy. A couple times I was tempted, but a simple redirect kept me going. Long story short, I did it! I'm really excited about it. I thank the Lord that he has given me the strength to do what He asks.

While listening to the BoM, I loved when Nephi gives his "Oh, wretched man that I am" prayer. Like him, I pray the Lord will help me shrink at the thought of iniquity.

Also, while thinking about my success, I remembered a technique I was taughr while being trained to work with developmentally disabled individuals. When they get angry, upset, obsessed, etc. we were always told to redirect them. (the same works for kids I'm learning too) Don't sit there and tell them to stop and get angey if they don't. You simply say "Hey, look at this thing over here." By distracting the brain with something completely unrelated, it is forced to reorient itself and reallocate resources. Its like rebooting your computer when it freezes. A friend of mine also related it to changing the radio station. I don't know, maybe part of overcoming addiction is to learn how to redirect ourselves when we are tempted.

I have more in my head, and I'm trying to work more at being honest with myself, but I'm not ready to share that yet. I hope everyone is doing well.

Comments:

awesome    
"That was way cool thank you for sharing...Bragging rights are always a great thing...Congrats"
posted at 14:27:47 on August 24, 2011 by urbnoutdrzmn
you need a formal plan    
"a suggestion.. your situation is unique

in my SAA program, one had to create 3 circles..
inner circle --things that will break sobriety ( porn, mb, sex with someone else, etc)
middle circle -- things that can be threating (being alone with internet, movies, etc)
outer circle -- good things (scriptures, etc)

For me my middle circle includes being in my office alone late at night, traveling and being alone in a hotel (easy access to porn, etc). I need to have a plan for any acitvity I do in the middle areas..

One of the first things my SAA sponsor did was help me put a travel plan together for when I travel --


here's mine that I use for travel which could be similar to one where you are left at home..
no TV at all.
Socializing with coworkers is preferred to alone time in hotel room
minimze internet usage
read scriptures
read other books
txt wife and kids many times during the day and evening
skyping or conference call for family prayer

I have learned to avoid anything that could possible trigger me.. I dont want to "lock horms" with the devil.. I could win for a day but then I would eventaully lose..

good luck!"
posted at 14:28:50 on August 24, 2011 by hurtallover
HurtAllOver,    
"I both agree and disagree. I think that I am just as lucky as anything else. To be frank, I spent most of my evening rotting my brain playing a video game. :) Had the game gotten boring, I don't know if I could have abstained. Since the game was both entertaining and keeping me from more vulnerable, I would argue that it was acting as something in the outer circle. It was something I knew would occupy my mind.

I disagree, however, in that my case is unique. Addiction is the result of a physiological response that is the same no matter who you are. I may not be as severely addicted as you, or vice versa, but we are both addicts. I am confident that my prayer and listening to the Book of Mormon was just as important as occupying my mind, and I'm grateful that the Lord helped me through it. I was simply hoping to share another weapon we can all use to fight our addictions.

Also, I like the idea of having a formal plan. I'm usually not a formal plan kind of guy, but if it helps, I'm all for it! :)"
posted at 14:43:01 on August 24, 2011 by Braingeek
the formal plan thing is not me either    
"I hear ya.. actually your plan to play video games is a perfect outer circle activity to avoid acting out.

I struggle with formal plans and "dailies" lists. I do them because my sponser tells me to do it and.

good luck brother.. you can make it.. one day at atime"
posted at 21:55:07 on August 24, 2011 by Hurtallover
Great discussions    
"Thanks for your thoughts. It is incredible the great input from those above. It is great to learn from eachother and support each other."
posted at 19:16:14 on August 25, 2011 by Leo
Congratulations    
"Thanks for sharing your success, Braingeek.

Hurtallover, thanks for the idea on a safety plan. I've done that for business trips but it never occurred to me to safety plan for when I'm home alone. Just another example of how my addict brain often puts the blinders on -- if safety planning works for when I'm alone traveling, then why did it never occur to me to do a safety plan when I'm alone and not traveling? :)"
posted at 09:55:29 on August 26, 2011 by 1day@atime


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"Freedom from your transgression will come through sincere faith, true repentance, willing obedience, and the giving of self. Why the giving of self? Because selfishness is at the root of your problem. Where selfishness and transgression flourish, the Spirit of the Lord can’t enter your life to bless you. To succeed, you must conquer your selfishness. When your beacon is focused on self, it does little more than blind your vision. When turned outward through acts of kindness and love, it will light your path to happiness and peace. "

— Richard G. Scott

General Conference May 1990