Messing up and going back to ground zero....
By urbnoutdrzmn
8/19/2011 7:43:54 AM
When you work on your addiction and you go for weeks without doing it, then you slip and fall back into it..This is when you go back to ground zero, not just with yourself but with the ones that love you.

We have Covenant Eyes on our computer and every Friday we get a report..and it shows exactly what you looked at on all the computers in the house. My report looks like crap and it is mainly from Facebook....There are people on there that are have put pictures on there that are not major offensive, however non the less it records it. Now I know I shouldnt go there, and even more I the way you feel afterwards I should see the signs of how I treat others. I am so tired of giving in, I dont want my wife to give up Facebook and i know she wont, I dont want ot punish her any longer..My new goal is come on here and blog exactly what is going through my thoughts. There is so much support on here, all you do is need to be honest with yourself and not hold back. I appreciate everyone on here that has taken the big step to overcome their addiction.

I want my wife to know that I do love her and I am sorry for messing up again. I know I can do this....


"Good job in being honest. I hope you told your wife before she had to find out by herself. That will make the hurt and trauma worse if you don't tell her asap.
FYI, there is an acronym in the addiction realm:

SLIP = Sobriety Loses Its Priority

Back up and find out what was going on at the time. Why did you slip? It usually has to do with
posted at 12:14:23 on August 19, 2011 by confidence
We never go back to ground zero    
"We have learned and grown, we will never be the same as we were when we started our recovery. We may take some steps backwards, but we never lose all that we have gained. I have to remind myself of that all the time. I've been struggling with that this week. I feel like I haven't made progress because I'm still slipping 4 years into recovery. I'm not where I was 4 years ago though. I have so much more insight and awareness.

I have Covenant Eyes also. It reports Facebook because there could be offensive pictures. Even if every picture on every page you went to was of Christ, it would show up on your report. I guess that's something you and your wife will have to discuss. I agree with Confidence, if you look at something you shouldn't, you should let her know before the report does. I figure my report should never surprise anyone.

Anyways, just my thoughts.
posted at 18:14:44 on August 19, 2011 by dstanley
Best Policy    
"You hit the nail on the head with being honest first with yourself and second with your wife. I agree that you should certainly tell her before she finds out. This really helped me, I couldn't bear to look my husband in the face and feel his pain when I told him. It seemed like the single best deterrent from slipping was facing him and seeing how it hurt him and how much he was getting tired of my addiction.

A great resource for your wife can be found here: It will help explain to her what you're going through and how to support you with overcoming your addiction.

I hope this helps,

posted at 22:58:33 on August 28, 2011 by AngelaW

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