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Motivation to change
By asdfjkl1234
8/8/2011 2:26:03 PM
Help...

I am a SA that started when I was a curious 12 year old. I have always been a curious person, and that has got me into trouble. 6-7 years ago is when the porn addiction started. Long story short, I have been doing good with the addiction recovery manual up until a few months ago when a combination of many things came raining down on me at once. I have relapsed back into my addictions and now have absolutely no motivation to change the situation. My wife hates me and I think she is considering leaving me. How do I get the motivation to WANT to change? I don't read scriptures, or do anything to strengthen my spirit...no motivation. What to do?

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motivation    
"I feel your pain...I know my wife loves me too..I know that what I do sometimes makes her tell me she doesnt like me. I know I struggle with it everyday. I am not the best at reading my scriptures either..and I have had an experience in the last couple of days where I have hit rock bottom. I know that my Heavenly Father loves me too. I am glad I found this website to read what others are going through. I will be there if you need it."
posted at 15:27:27 on August 8, 2011 by urbnoutdrzmn
you have to want it    
"It was when I decided to leave that my husband sobered up and is staying that way for a year. If he ever goes back, I will leave. God does not expect me to live my life the way I did for many years. I became very sick because I was living with an active addict. My husband now loves God, me and his children more then he loves his addiction. He reads his scriptures, prays, works his steps daily. He attends meetings weekly, and the temple weekly. He does it on his own. I do not question, monitor, or check up on him. He owns his sobriety and you must own yours too.

He is happier then he has ever been in his entire life. He said that the best thing he has ever done was trusting God to take away his addiction. He tried to overcome on his own for decades, but it was not until he was ready to give it alll to the Lord, that he was able to let go of something that nearly distroyed his family. I too attend meetings, read scritpures, work my steps.

What or who do you love? Remember your actions, not your words will show your wife what or who you love more. I pray you make the right choice. It has to be honest and real with no dishonesty whatsoever, or she will know and it wont work.

We are not special. You can do this. Anyone can overcome and heal if they trust God, and let go.

Pray for the "want to change".It may take your wife leaving. I hope not, because if she does leave or ask you to leave, she may never come back. You can bothe heal, I promise.

Can you or do you go to recovery meetings?"
posted at 17:49:48 on August 8, 2011 by Anonymous


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"Each one who resolves to climb that steep road to recovery must gird up for the fight of a lifetime. But a lifetime is a prize well worth the price. This challenge uniquely involves the will, and the will can prevail. Healing doesn’t come after the first dose of any medicine. So the prescription must be followed firmly, bearing in mind that it often takes as long to recover as it did to become ill. But if made consistently and persistently, correct choices can cure. "

— Russell M. Nelson

General Conference, October 1988