Bad Day
By Confidence
7/29/2011 10:43:01 PM
I just want to cry the hurt out. But, I'm home with my husband who gets mad when I am hurt by his sex addiction. So, I'm hiding in the bathroom to write this up and then will spend the rest of the night with him hopefully able to hold back the tears and be respectful to him.

Prayers and suggestions please.


prayers it is!    
"Time, faith, patience, unconditional love. Work the steps."
posted at 23:21:52 on July 29, 2011 by chefdalet
Bad day is right    
"There is a big difference between emotional discipline and repressing your emotions. Time outs are good and healthy, but your description of hiding in the bathroom because he gets mad if you are struggling doesn't sound like a healthy step back from a painful situation. It sounds like maybe it is making a bad situation worse for you. You have a right to be yourself. You have a right to let yourself feel hurt. We cannot berate or belittle the addict, but your pain is real and I don't think it should be hidden in a bathroom so he wont get mad at you. Confidence, there are ways to assert yourself in a healthy fashion. He may not like it but you need to do what is right for you, even if it makes him uncomfortable. Acting like things are ok will make things worse. You have my prayers...."
posted at 11:44:57 on August 2, 2011 by maddy
"I am so sorry!!!! My stomache is all in knots just even thinking about a day like that.
I agree with Maddy- although I am still working on getting enough of a backbone to always be like that. Its not even a backbone. Its more that they don't want to talk about it since they would rather act like it didn't happen. Women need to analyze it, talk about it, pray about it, and grieve, etc. There is so many more layers to us then them.
Glad you could vent to us here. We love you and want you to be happy!
Prayers and hugs your way-
posted at 01:15:16 on August 7, 2011 by faith21
im so sorry too    
"keep your head up. this is only one part of a marriage, you can still have fun + play board games or laugh...everything is not absolute..."
posted at 16:17:08 on August 7, 2011 by skyteamst90
Do not stuff your emotions!    
"You have every right to your emotions! Stuffing emotions will keep you sick! Feel all that you need to feel. Talk about your feelings. Write in a journal about your feelings. Tell your Heavenly Father about your feelings and why your feel that way. Give your feelings and emotions to Jesus!

Fake it till you make it is definitely a good tool for recovery. That does not mean denial. If I denied my emotions. They festered got infected and took major surgery to be removed. Or they came out in an uncontrolled rage of anger.

Love to you!"
posted at 23:48:22 on August 7, 2011 by Hero

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