Good Steps
By jc004
7/18/2011 10:33:59 AM
I've been reading a book by the Man when it comes to recovery from s~exual addictions, Patrick Carnes. Three ideas were excellent I am going to work on:

Abstinence Worksheet: define all of the behaviors you commit to abstain from. This can be helpful when we get in a place where we try to justify certain "gray area" activities. It can be helpful to put them on the list when we're thinking rationally and the clear line is drawn.

Boundaries worksheet: a list of self-imposed limits to promote safety and recovery. I can see that writing these down as well as having them as a reference will be helpful.

Focus worksheet: determine rewards, behaviors and situations to embrace and work for.

I see these three as being concise/brief and specific. I can see how reviewing them every morning will help to reinforce my work. I can also see how praying with the list in front of me and asking God to help me achieve recovery through compliance with my abstinence, boundaries and focus goals. I'm throwing this in the mix.

Patrick Carnes is impressive. He started The Meadows in Arizona and has been at the forefront of SA recovery for years. I think he was the one that took the AA 12-step program to SA, which the Church has adopted. While a lot of his work relates to SA, porn addiction is essentially the same.


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"I will speak briefly of the principle of repentance. How grateful I am for the understanding we have of this great principle. It is not a harsh principle, as I thought when I was a boy. It is kind and merciful. The Hebrew root of the word means, simply, "to turn," or to return, to God. Jehovah pled with the children of Israel: "Return . . . and I will not cause mine anger to fall upon you: for I am merciful . . . and I will not keep anger for ever. Only acknowledge thine iniquity, that thou hast transgressed against the Lord thy God." When we acknowledge our sins, confess them and forsake them, and turn to God, He will forgive us."

— Richard G. Hinckley

General Conference April 2006