By Confidence1
7/16/2011 10:48:20 AM
So, my husband went to his 3rd SAR meeting and then he finally read stuff about me (when I was out at a college class). We had a serious sit down meeting later in the evening after the kids went to bed.

He understands where I'm coming from! He had read things on PTSD and co-dep and told me adamantly, "You are NOT co-dependent. You are looking for safety, not control. I understand you better."

Talk about relief. Prayers have been answered.

He's having challenges in his recovery, but it will be 3 weeks sober for him!

He's offered to sleep on the couch, but I explained that I need to figure out where I want my boundaries to lie before sending him on the couch. I don't (lately) feel he needs to be away from me at night.

Now, I feel like my boundaries will be if he has a porn or mb slip up or makes me feel as if he's taking scantily clad photos lightly (like saying, "Oh, come on, they aren't bad."), then he will sleep on the couch.

Anyway, just wanted to share my relief with those things. :)


Small steps...    
"Sounds like you both are on the right path. Keep fighting. You both are worth it."
posted at 22:28:06 on July 17, 2011 by chefdalet

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