OFF topic: Messaging, and recovery manual???
By confidenceIn
7/6/2011 9:32:29 AM
Is there any way to privately contact others in the group? I keep going back and forth about requesting this as I'm not sure it's better to have the anonymity or not at times. I'd really like to meet up with some that have really touched my heart with ideas and guidance. Or give a real hug to someone struggling. Anyway... lol

Also, I printed out the whole spouse recovery manual and put it in page protectors. However, I wanted to see if it's actually in print anywhere. I went our local distribution center, and the ONLINE distribution center, and they only had the addict one. Is it actually in print somewhere?



"I don't think the spouse manual is yet available to purchase. I asked the missionary at my recovery group and he said they are in the process of revising it and then they will publish it officially. The one on here is very good but it is part of a pilot program, I believe. So, good news about a forthcoming, improved manual (hopefully soon). I printed this off for my wife since she doesn't want to go to support group yet. It's been so helpful to me I've tried to encourage her."
posted at 12:54:53 on July 6, 2011 by Anonymous
Healing Through Christ, Family Support Guide    
"Is there not a group in your area? You can find out by calling your local Family Services. Or go to, the churches website and follow the links to Family Services and Recovery Groups. Find a group!!! You need this!

I would list an email for you to contact, but others have had trouble with doing that??? If there is no group in your area I will make sure you can have contact with someone.

That is the name of the new manual. No it is not in publication yet. It has been submitted to correlation and is going through that process. The manual on this site. Family/Spouses manual is still being used in many of the groups. It is the manual most of us have used for our healing process. The new manual is condensed some and text has been moved around a bit, but it is still mostly the same as the manual you can access on this site. I really like that manual, when I first got my hand on it I said, "yes, they finally get it! Praise the Lord!" The new manual is a little watered down because it will be used for all addiction. All Family Members not just spouses who's loved ones are struggling with addiction. But, it still amazing and just what we need. So take confidence in the manual that is posted here and read the introduction over and over and work your steps. Use the scripture references and talk references for your scripture study. Commit to daily recovery, much the same as for the addict, after all our addiction is co-dependency. Pray morning and night, study recovery material including the recovery manual and work the study and understanding in the back of each step, find a sponsor, support person to help you with accountability to your recovery and boundaries. Boundaries for your behavior. Commit time everyday for your recovery. This is an amazing inspired program and I pray that all spouses will find this program and use it to heal and become all that there Father in Heaven knows they are! Attend meetings! That is where you feel the greatest spirit of understanding and validation.

Love and Prayers,"
posted at 16:17:33 on July 6, 2011 by Hero
Excellent post, Hero.    
"That is it in a nutshell!"
posted at 16:26:56 on July 6, 2011 by Anonymous
"I feel like you do! I thought the meeting was great but when I look around my suburban neighborhood I feel so isolated and all alone in my pain. I wish there was a chat room on this site so that we could talk to eachother back and forth instead of just a blog here or there. I think the spouses really need to talk well at least I do. I feel like it helps just to vent to someone who at least has some idea of the pain and everything that a women goes through when her husband is addicted. :)"
posted at 17:41:17 on July 6, 2011 by MOMOf5
"Thanks for the comments. :) I'm not sure if this post will get deleted, but I just created an e-mail with this username, but with a 1 at the end. So, it's "ConfidenceIn1" at gmail DOT com. :) Feel free to send me an e-mail, anyone! :)

*Also, there is a group in my area, but my husband doesn't want me to come w/ him yet (he's going to his 2nd meeting tonight). It's combined, and there was only one wife there last week.

Thanks for the info on the book. I have it all ready to use, just wanted to know if there was a cleaned up version yet. :)"
posted at 18:03:03 on July 6, 2011 by ConfidenceIn
"You do need to talk! It is crazy, i was never a talker. Grew up with mostly brothers and worked with men. So the chit chat as I would call it just bored me. Well, then the D Day and I found myself needing someone to talk to. I had to have some one to talk to. I prayed and my Heavenly Father let me know who to call. It was perfect. I was able to talk and I was amazed how therapeutic it was. So maybe pray, and there will be someone in you group who will be the right one. Not everyone who attends is there every week. I have found that the Lord in his tender mercy will and has provided for my needs. I just have to ask.. Just as our Savior had to ask...for all that he knew was entitled to him. John:17 .....

We have to ask, just ask."
posted at 18:21:40 on July 6, 2011 by Hero
"You said that there was one other wife at the meeting. Hey, you have everything you need to start your own spouses meeting! Contact LDS Family Services about getting one going. They're very helpful in getting these things going. Good luck to you!"
posted at 19:10:00 on July 6, 2011 by Anonymous
Be careful    
"I wish there was a chat feature. I would participate for sure.

Because of the nature of this addiction, I would be careful listing an email address. The reason I am saying this is because a wife of an addict who was on this blog was personally harrassed by another addict on this site. He found out her real name and started emailing her. I think people who know computers well can trace your real identity even when you use a fake name on an email address. "
posted at 22:25:55 on July 6, 2011 by Anonymous

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"Lucifer will do all in his power to keep you captive. You are familiar with his strategy. He whispers: “No one will ever know.” “Just one more time.” “You can’t change; you have tried before and failed.” “It’s too late; you’ve gone too far.” Don’t let him discourage you. When you take the path that climbs, that harder path of the Savior, there are rewards along the way. When you do something right, when you resist temptation, when you meet a goal, you will feel very good about it. It is a very different kind of feeling than you have when you violate commandments—an altogether different feeling. It brings a measure of peace and comfort and provides encouragement to press on. "

— Richard G. Scott

General Conference May 1990