The Third Option (From the SA White Book)
By they speak
7/3/2011 4:09:17 AM
The Third Option

Before finally giving up, we had tried one or the other of two options: On the one hand, we expressed our obsession by acting it out. On the other hand, we tried suppressing it by drinking, drugging, eating, or by fighting it with white knuckle willpower. And with what a show of promises and resolutions! Many of us switched from acting out to suppression, back and forth.
Neither option brought us the peace we sought so desperately. Expressing the obsession made it progress relentlessly, on and on, and suppressing it only made the pressure build inside until something had to give. Both options made it worse; we were between a rock and a hard place. We never knew there was another option-surrender. What a beautiful liberating word it has become to those of us who do it! pg. 84

As I read I realize I have so rarely chosen and or choose the 3rd option. It is not a habit for me. It’s an attitude that I don’t practice hardly ever let alone constantly as is desperately needed moment to moment. Surrender is an option from moment to moment as i'm bombarded with things that don't vibrate at the frequency I want to vibrate at that I don't often chose. And when I take an appraisal of the times in my life where I have surrendered to my amazement I simply had sobriety. It worked! I feel emotion welling up inside me in confirmation of this as I accept it. I think I feel God. I suppose I feel the beauty and liberation of the word surrender. I dare say it worked every time. That's quite a declaration. I dare say I dare to exercise faith in it.

I think suppression often is so insidious a thing, a habitual attitude/obsession, for me I often if not most the time slip quickly from surrender, what few times I’ve tried it, into suppression. That’s what has derailed me I believe.


Postscript: Before I hit the hay just wanted to note some things I liked about meeting today. I liked what one guy had to say about God. That his God was not the God that would only help and attend when he gave it a hundred percent if two percent was all he had to give. If two percent was all he had his God would work with him and give him the grace he needed to progress to the next place. Honestly I don’t think this is much different then 2 Nephi 31:19-20. If we consider that both the word of Christ and faith in him are gifts - the grace of God. Imperfect as my understanding may be I think this is a characteristic of my God too. My experience has proven the same. Especially when I’ve exercised faith in a loving God that is so.


"Where can someone get a copy of the SA White Book?"
posted at 08:25:47 on July 3, 2011 by maddy
"There are SA meetings everywhere and most will sell you a copy of the white book. You don't need to attend the meeting. Just go a few minutes before one starts and ask to buy a copy, or go to amazon. It is "Sexaholics Anonymous" NOT "Sex Addicts Anonymous".
The first program is the truly inspired one in my opinion and they have meetings for spouse. The spouses program is called S-Anon and I think they may even have their own text now.

By the way, you are awesome!"
posted at 15:36:29 on July 3, 2011 by Anonymous
"I lost my White Book and have just been studying a pdf on line if you wanna check that out

posted at 17:29:04 on July 3, 2011 by they speak

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"If, through our unrighteous choices, we have lost our footing on that path, we must remember the agency we were given, agency we may choose to exercise again. I speak especially to those overcome by the thick darkness of addiction. If you have fallen into destructive, addictive behaviors, you may feel that you are spiritually in a black hole. As with the real black holes in space, it may seem all but impossible for light to penetrate to where you are. How do you escape? I testify the only way is through the very agency you exercised so valiantly in your premortal life, the agency that the adversary cannot take away without your yielding it to him. "

— Robert D. Hales

General Conference, April 2006