By Teddy
5/28/2011 8:11:41 PM
its been a while since i posted so let me tell you how i've been doing:

it's now a week and 2 days sober all i can say WOW....i'm so happy!!! i haven't been able to go a week sober in....well in weeks.I talked with the bishop he told me i had to break this addiction asap he told me to come back to him in JULY to see how i was doing he also said a counselor would call to make an appointment. Ii want to know what to expect he asked if i was sure like 20 times he also said some questions might be personal so i'm kind of scared...!?

but besides that I FEEL GREAT!!!


"Congrats Teddy, its a huge accomplishment for you. Remember to keep perspective and stay close with the Lord. I understand being anxious about seeing a counselor--it's scary sharing our deep dark secrets with a stranger wondering how they are going to perceive us.

My experience seeing a counselor has been positive for I found one who shared my same beliefs and values. Do you know if you are seeing a counselor through LDSFS or somewhere else? I remember when I first went to see my counselor a prepared a list of things I needed to work on because I knew if I didn't I would not tell for I was too ashamed to verbally say why I was there. Now its not a big deal, we can talk openly about any issue I am having.

A therapist is a professional and is there to empower you and help you discover the skills and techniques to improve yourself. Stay close with the Lord and pray He will help calm the nerves and protect you as you begin the journey to be free from this addicition."
posted at 12:46:53 on May 29, 2011 by rachp
"The unknown is always scary. Good councilors just lead you to find a path through your own thoughts and experiences. Mine asks me questions like, "Why do you think you do that/think that?" or "Is it possible that these two things you mentioned are related to each other." They never judge...they just help you explore. You are the one doing all the discoveries...they can just be kind of like a guide. Don't worry. I look forward to my sessions!"
posted at 22:47:20 on May 29, 2011 by maddy
feel better    
"@RACHP That's also another thing i'm scared of what if he ask something i don't want to tell them i mean are some of the questions that personal? i don't know yet he said someone would call to set up an appointment but it most likely the counselor will be LDS.

@MADDY Thanks for that,that actually made me feel better."
posted at 21:22:18 on May 30, 2011 by Teddy
each time    
"Take the sessions in stride. If you are not ready to discuss something, be honest and let the counselor know. You do as much work as you are ready each time. You will see, or at least I did, each time talking and answering questions becomes easier. "
posted at 22:48:43 on May 30, 2011 by rachp
this addiction is one of secrets... if you want to heal , let someone know    
"I would tell your therapist everthing. Ask yourself -- what are you really willing to do to get over this. Are you williing to share your fears with someone else? Unless you are willing to do everything, recovery will be really hard."
posted at 06:37:23 on May 31, 2011 by Anonymous
another question    
"@ RACHP i think that's a good point to tell him when i don't feel comfortable discussing that.
@ANONYMOUS that's also a good point maybe i'll tell him i don't feel comfortable right NOW later i will!? i just can't imagine telling him everything I've detail.

I have another question how long does it take for a counselor to call you to set up a meeting?
oh and i've been sober for 2 weeks!!! :)"
posted at 21:47:21 on June 2, 2011 by Teddy
Yea 2 Weeks!!    
"Congratulations! Good work.
Try not to worry about the counselor. Be honest with him, even if it is to say that you're not comfortable discussing that yet. It's really not that bad though. My counselors know more about me than anyone else in this world. It feels good to get the secrets out, so try and be as open as you can. How long it takes a counselor to call and set something up can depend. I'd give it a week or so, and then maybe you could ask your bishop again if you still haven't heard. I'm excited for you. I think seeing a counselor will be a good thing for you.
posted at 00:02:18 on June 3, 2011 by dstanley
"I'm really excited too!"
posted at 19:07:59 on June 3, 2011 by Teddy
You Rock!    
"Two weeks is awesome! Heck, I'm to the point where two DAYS is awesome. Keep going. It's going to be hard. I know, for me, I always go in cycles. It's like, I'll be fine for a couple weeks, then temptation will pour down on me and it won't go away until I give in. Eventually I get so tired of resisting that I do just give in. And then I have to start over. So make sure you're watching for it to come and be ready for it.

As for the counselor, I can't imagine they'd expect you to tell them everything on the first day or even after a couple times. This person is a stranger so they can't expect you to be automatically comfortable with them. Don't worry about sharing things if you're not yet comfortable with doing so. I have to tell you, though, that telling this stuff to someone else really is relieving. But you be the one that says whether you're going to say it or not. Don't let someone else sway you one way or another. It's up to you. It's YOUR recovery. What works for someone else won't necessarily work for you. So take all the advice you get from us and others, ponder it, weigh it out, and see what works for you. Congrats and good luck. You rock!"
posted at 22:35:25 on June 5, 2011 by Zero
i didn't give in!!!    
"yea two weeks is awesome but i'm sorry to say i fell....but i'm happy because to day is 1 week and 1 day so i guess i came back with some good news!!! temptation hit me hard this week but i'm happy i didn't give in!!! :))

Thank for that Zero but i am bummed out the counselor hasn't called me! :(("
posted at 09:38:54 on June 15, 2011 by teddy
Follow Up    
"I'd follow up with your bishop about the counselor. Seeing a counselor will help, so don't let it slide. Good job getting back up and going again after falling."
posted at 09:59:49 on June 15, 2011 by dstanley

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