meeting, questions and pondering
By rachp
5/16/2011 7:21:11 PM
So after trying to meet with my Bishop for over a month, we were finally able to meet. Looking back I see that I needed that month to prepare. I also needed to rehear his testimony of the atonement and the hope, peace and joy it can bring to your life.

When I met with him, it was bitter sweet. He asked me many questions, more than I have ever been asked by my past Bishop or a therapist. I was a bit ashamed, anxious, and not wanting to answer any of them. Yet, I knew I needed to in order to continue moving forward with the repentance process.
Some of the questions gave me a lot to ponder about. I have been involved with pn for 18 years. More than half of my life. Why did I even get a recent conference, it was stated that most people addicted to pn happen upon it by chance and never turn back. I have my dear wonderful, brothers to thank for my exposure. I do not blame them by any means, for I clearly made choices to continue down a bad path.

I was saddened that at the end of our meeting, he told me I would be on informal probation (no partaking of the sacrament, no calling, and no participation), with a possible disciplinary council. I was shocked at this comment, I was not prepared for this. I pray there is not a DC, but if there is I will take it in stride. This is something I didn't think would ever happen to me. Yet, I am humbled by being put on probation. I truly see the need for it to give me a chance to see the blessings I have given up, by being involved with pn.
I have committed to myself, my Bishop and the Lord to the following:

Recovery meeting a week

Making contact with my Bishop each week, even just a hand shake

Weekly email to Bishop

Go back to my therapist

Continue reading Scriptures, praying and fasting.

I am determined to make progress and get back on track and be allowed to have the full blessings of the Gospel.


"I wouldn't think that p~rnography is something that would need a disciplinary council, but I could be wrong. My bishop also put me on informal probation, but he never mentioned anything about a d. council. Hmm. I guess I just kind of assumed those were mainly for individuals who were unrepentant. Again, I could be wrong. I wouldn't fear it too much if you are repentant. That's really what they look at in those meetings, from what I hear. I've never heard of anyone being excommunicated from the church because of an addiction to p~rnography (and imagine there'd be a lot more people who were if that was the case). Unless there's more to your story, of course.

It's great that you're so motivated to do good things. I would advise you, even though it's good to get help from others and remain accountable, not to rely too much on other people. It's really the Lord that you, and all of us, need to rely upon. He needs to be the main focus and our main source of help."
posted at 23:53:46 on May 16, 2011 by Zero
"If you are Mel. Preisthood, the bishop has to inform the Stake Prez. Afterall, he presides over all preisthood holders. The president will ask if it was anything beyond porn. If not, the bishop will be told to handle it.

It's good that the president knows. That would never have come out of my mouth 6 months ago. the more people that can be trusted in the know, the more likely you are to get healthy. They will be part of your accountability team. They will give you the extra look over during worthiness interviews. They will see your transformation if you are able to change.

I dont even know if you can be excommunicated or disfellowshiped for porn. It's a bad sin. alcoholics aren't excommunicated. If you had an issue with kiddie porn or something that got into the news - then it would require a DC to protect the name of the church.

BTW -- It's good your bishop asked lots of questions.. thats really good. He isnt afraid to shine light on all the dark areas that need cleaned up.

May you find your serenity"
posted at 06:42:17 on May 18, 2011 by Hurtallover

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