By dstanley
5/8/2011 11:14:20 PM
I'm sick which is one of my biggest trigger, and then to top things off my second ex-husband sent me a Mother's Day card electronically. He didn't even ask about our son. It is hugely irritating. Mother's Day as a single mom is hard enough without being sick and having people harass you. I'm trying not to let it impact my sobriety.


Keep going    
"hang in there and lets add one more day to your sobriety. Reach out to your support team and make the best of the negative feelings you are experiencing. Remember being a mother is about more than one day a year we celebrate."
posted at 08:23:05 on May 9, 2011 by rachp
"I don't want to get all Mr.Fix-It with advice or anything, so I hope I don't come off sounding pushy or a know-it-all (because I don't), but you shouldn't allow others to dictate your life in that way. You aren't responsible for their actions, what they do or don't do. You can't control how they act, but you CAN control how you react. I know it's not the funnest idea in the world and it would certainly be nice if everyone could have a little more tact and was more thoughtful. But we're all imperfect. We can't use the behavior of others as an excuse for ourselves.

I can see how that would be irritating. I'm sorry that you weren't able to have a proper Mother's Day. That's no fun. But don't get caught up in the entitled mindset either. I do that sometimes, thinking "I deserve a break from it all" and that's the perfect time for Satan to attack. Cuz all the good stuff in my life becomes a burden at that point: scriptures, church, service, etc. Don't think so much of what others should be doing for you, but what you can do for them. Or, at the very least, how you will react to others. That's hard. I'm not good at it at all. It's easy for me to say, but a lot harder to put into practice.

Hope I wasn't too preachy. I'm on your side all the way to the end."
posted at 00:31:28 on May 10, 2011 by Zero
"It got to me and impacted my sobriety. I slipped yesterday morning. I have been sober since though.

I know I need to learn to let it go. It's just hard. I haven't yet figured out how to keep it from irritating me when he contacts me. I guess it makes me sad too. Reminds me of all the hopes I had for our marriage and how all those things didn't work out.

You're right....Mother's Day and being a mother is about more. I got to spend the day with the two best guys in my life. That should be enough. We don't have the ideal family situation, but at least we have each other.

You weren't too preachy Zero. :)

posted at 00:14:42 on May 11, 2011 by dstanley

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